In my first year of high school I was this scrawny kid who had a lot of trouble adapting. I might say that I was an introvert; I wasn’t the most sociable of creatures.
A friend of mine was taking some kickboxing classes and I said, “Why not?” I honestly don’t know why, but I do know that I was pretty sure it wouldn’t be such a big deal. The first training was awful – I thought I was going to die or something, but somehow I managed to go to the next one, and the next, and two weeks I found myself actually enjoying them.
You see, there was this routine. Two hours a day, five days a week I would be at the gym. Whether I liked it or not. Whether my head hurt or not. Whether I got a bad grade at school or not. Because when I entered the gym, there were other expectations, other dreams, and an entirely different world. The person I was outside of it ceased to exist, and this allowed me to concentrate on what I was doing then.
The same principle applies to writing. The most successful writers have this in common: they always show up at their desk. Daily. No questions asked. They have to show up, whether they feel like it or not. Because writing is never easy. And it never gets easy, but you can train your mind, you can find a routine, a time during the day in which you can know for sure that you’re free to put pen to paper without having to worry about the kids, making dinner, your job, or other stuff. But you have to show up, you have to at least try. I just have to stare at the white screen for half an hour. Then write. Good stuff or bad, it doesn’t matter.
The best analogy I can think of right now is that writing is like trying to pick up a girl; the guys who are really good at it are also the ones who fail a lot. But they just don’t care. You have to be willing to make a fool out of yourself, to fail lamentably. If you expect nothing out of any given situation, than odds are that the results are going to surprise you. In a good way. Also, I believe that you can’t write something good unless you’re willing to write something, anything.