Blessing… in disguise

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“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” – John Steinbeck

They say change is the only true constant in our lives. Defined as the process through which something becomes different. Some of us fight it, others choose to focus their energy on adapting to the new circumstances; to make the most out of whatever it is that has changed.

Change is inevitable.

There’s good and bad in our lives. There’s good and bad in the world around us. How we react to all that is entirely up to us.

But what I really what to write about is the so called “blessing in disguise.” Continue reading

Dark night of the soul…

“Now the standard cure for one who is sunk is to consider those in actual destitution or physical suffering—this is an all-weather beatitude for gloom in general and fairly salutary day-time advice for everyone. But at three o’clock in the morning, a forgotten package has the same tragic importance as a death sentence, and the cure doesn’t work—and in a real dark night of the soul it is always three o’clock in the morning, day after day.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Life is a matter of perspective. What we call reality is limited to how much we perceive. Or how we perceive. Or what we want to perceive.

Events in themselves are meaningless. We attach a certain meaning to them, we choose what we feel, think, and how we react. Continue reading

One word at a time

one_wordWhen asked, ‘How do you write?’ I invariably answer, ‘one word at a time.’ – Stephen King

Sometimes I catch a glimpse of the future. Whether is just a scene from a chapter I have yet to write, or the ending line, or just a few lines of dialogue. That’s magic. That’s power. I know something that no one else knows, and it’s entirely up to me to bring it to life. Continue reading

Why do we fall?

falling“The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

I’m almost twenty four years old. A fragile age indeed; I have yet to conquer all the good and the bad that life can throw at me. But I’ve seen things, I’ve done things. Scars have been inflicted upon my body and soul. I’ve kept secrets, I’ve nurtured bizarre dreams and fantasies until they became demons. I’ve lost more battles than I can count…

And I’ve fallen… time and time again…

And yet… it’s not the fall that breaks most people. It’s the fear that they’ll never rise up again.

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One more time…

tumblr_nr6q9gBwN91uogaq2o1_1280In January 2011 I self-published a novel. It was badly written, badly edited, and I had absolutely no idea how to sell it. I had no online presence: no blog, no Facebook page, no Twitter.

So I sold 4 copies in 4 months. It was a disaster. I received a 2 star review on Goodreads, and then I decided to un-publish the damn thing.

And I gave up writing. For a few months, that is. Continue reading

Tomorrow

funny-meaning-of-tomorrow-motivational-quotes-sayings-pics-e1431981063373“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today. You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.” – Seneca

Somehow I believe that it’s human nature to dream, to imagine a better life. It’s how we evolve and develop. But dreaming is one thing, striving to achieve that dream another.

But it’s difficult, right?

To find the energy, the time, the motivation to pursue your dreams?

I believe that the most important requirement to success is the ability to pursue your dreams no matter what. I believe that what really sets people apart is what they do when they don’t feel like doing anything. Or when they fail.

Another thing is the fear of failure, which, sadly, kills a lot more dreams than failure itself.

Putting things off is no solution. It just gives you a little bit of hope… like a sedative. It dulls the senses. It gives you something to look forward to.

But it’s just that.

Staring at a point in the distance, hoping for it to come to us.

“Here” and “now” create our future. Not “tomorrow”, not “someday.” It’s in the present that we take the decisions that ultimately become our destiny.

So, what have you done today to make your life better? Or the lives of others?

Success. Fear. And stuff.

fearMost people like to believe talent, hard work, and luck are among the determining factors of success. For a long time I thought you only need two of them.

But, actually, if you want to be successful, and it doesn’t matter if all you want is to become a great dancer or actor or writer, or whether you want to pick up pretty girls in bars, you just have to be willing to make a fool out of yourself. Continue reading