Hope and fear

Hope is the only thing stronger than fearIn many ways, fear is the only true constant in our lives. We are afraid that good things might end, that we might lose something we hold precious; when in pain, we are afraid it might never subside. We are always afraid. It’s how you know you’re alive… it’s how you’re aware of your surroundings, how you anchor yourself in the present… or keep an eye on the future. Sometimes we’re afraid of the past as well… that it might return to haunt us.

But at the same time hope is there as well. And we never, ever lose hope. Yes, at times we might lose hope in our own strengths, or our passions, but we never lose hope that something’s going to happen. Even at the edge of the dark abyss, we still hope that someone’s going to save us – we need a hero to save us from the hopelessness of staring into the abyss for too long.

There’s this battle going on inside each and every one of us. Hope fights fear. And we use so many words to describe certain situations or patterns or actions: precaution, realism, pragmatism, idealism… It depends solely on what each and every one of us is expecting to happen next.

Let me give you an example. About a month or so ago I met this girl. At first, I was intrigued because she was an artist, just like me. And so we talked and talked, and we became friends. After a while, I wanted for us to be more than just friends… but I was afraid to tell her that. Because I had something to lose… I was faced with not having her at all. Relationships between human beings are always fragile; we just pretend otherwise. So I waited… and waited… until hope finally prevailed.

The hope that she might feel the same way. The hope that I might find happiness. It’s the possibility, not the certainty that fuels hope to such extremes that we’re able to ignore our fears.

So, in a way, hope can be the only thing stronger than fear. But we need to nurture that hope, we need to see past all the negative outcomes, all those possibilities that would make life unbearably painful.

If fear is what keeps us anchored in the present; what makes us feel alive, then hope is what makes us feel human. It allows us to see into the future, to catch a glimpse of what might happen. And we’re not talking about odds here: as crazy as it seems, hope is only about something being possible. Sometimes it’s even about those impossible things we’d like to make possible.

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35 thoughts on “Hope and fear

  1. I’ve heard it said many a time that change is the only constant, and I must say that I agree. Hope and/or fear are born of change: one cannot have a reaction without an action.

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  2. Love is stronger than both fear and hope – if you can love the natural beauty around you, the amazing gifts and skills we have, the fact that you are alive to experience life, each moment that you have, and love yourself and those around you just as they are, then there is no need to be owned by fear, or even hope, you just live the best you can, being the truth of that love that you are being, representing the stream of consciousness experiencing itself, always knowing that you will someday return to it again, and flow as part of it infinitely on.

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  3. Alfred Benjamin started to touch on this so allow this follow through;

    Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not Love, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
    And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all Knowledge; and though I have all Faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not Love, I am nothing.
    And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not Love, it profits me nothing.

    Love suffers long, and is kind; Love is not jealous; Love does not boast, is not puffed up,
    Does not behave itself unseemly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil;
    Rejoices not in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the Truth;
    Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
    Love never fails: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be Knowledge, it shall vanish away.

    For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
    But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be no more.
    When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

    For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
    And NOW abides Faith, Hope, Love, these three; but the greatest of these is Love.
    1 Corinthians 13

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  4. Even in the sea of darkness, there will always be a little glimmer of hope out there. Thank you very much for this inspirational post, Mr. Mihai.

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  5. “We are afraid that good things might end, that we might lose something we hold precious; when in pain, we are afraid it might never subside.”
    So true. I like this line. I have found this to be the case in so many instances.

    I like the example you used with your friend. I hope that the two of you are happy together. I find it is always best to start a relationship from a friendship first.

    Great post.

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  6. “Courage is Fear that said its prayers.” – Author Unknown

    Saw this painted, literally, on the side of an old red barn in Peterborough, Ontario, Canada. I never forgot the wisdom of it, nor the fact that it was painted on an old barn.

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  7. “If fear is what keeps us anchored in the present; what makes us feel alive, then hope is what makes us feel human. It allows us to see into the future, to catch a glimpse of what might happen. And we’re not talking about odds here: as crazy as it seems, hope is only about something being possible. Sometimes it’s even about those impossible things we’d like to make possible.”

    Such inspiring words. I’ve imprinted them on my mind. Great writing, Cristian. :) All the Best for your project. I intend to read your books someday. :)

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