Sacrifice

easterWhen I was a kid there were two days I waited eagerly for: Christmas, when it was also my birthday, and I would receive presents and stuff, and Easter.

When I was a kid, Easter to me was silence. It seemed that way, as if the whole world was looking back on something. We were all contemplating a better world, but not with the same hope one holds on the first of January. It was something different, more primordial than that. It was not a promise we made to ourselves, but a promise someone else had made to us.

Of course, over time I lost most of this feeling. You grow up and you start dissecting everything you experience or see, and this almost always takes away a bit of that shine that accompanies the most profound of experiences.

This post is not about my own beliefs, but it’s more about the importance of believing in something, which is, sadly, a rare thing these days. We hardly believe in ourselves anymore, and most certainly we’ve become less and less capable of having faith.

This is not about religion, but about people. Because I believe that first of all, we owe it to ourselves to live our lives in such a way that our death brings no joy to the world (to paraphrase Steinbeck.) And then we owe it to others as well.

These days Easter brings to mind a word we rarely use anymore: sacrifice. It’s a word most of us dread, because we want it all, and we don’t want to pay the bill. We want everything, and we want it now, and we don’t have the patience to wait, let alone sacrifice ourselves for it. Because this is the only meaning of the word that has survived: having to give something up in order to gain something else.

Sacrificing for others, in big or small ways… the importance of that, of living for others, without asking (or hoping) for a reward, that’s something that holds little to no value for the realist, who sees good people doing bad things to other good people, and wants nothing more than to survive.

These days, we think too much, and we’ve almost forgotten to feel. We care less, we want more, and we think we don’t have enough. We don’t want to wait, and we’ve been told that there’s only one way to go: up. We don’t stop, and we don’t look back, because we’re afraid we’ll get stuck in the past.

We’ve successfully managed to lock our skeletons in the closet, and we don’t ever want them to come out.

On the first of January we look toward the future, and we hope and expect more. We make plans, and we promise to change our ways. Maybe there should be a day when we look back, and we try to see past the things we want to forget and catch a glimpse of what’s best in us, that part that’s always there, that doesn’t even have to be invented.

I figured out some time ago that becoming the person you want to be is all about figuring out where you lost that person. Dreams never die. They just get locked up inside the most hidden drawers of our souls.

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9 comments on “Sacrifice

  1. katmcdaniel says:

    Wonderful post; I share your viewpoint on the importance of believing in something. You remind me of a quote by Christina Baldwin, “I have read the story of a tribe in southern Africa called the Babemba in which a person doing something wrong, something that destroys this delicate social net, brings all work in the village to a halt. The people gather around the “offender,” and one by one they begin to recite everything he has done right in his life: every good deed, thoughtful behavior, act of social responsibility. These things have to be true about the person, and spoken honestly, but the time-honored consequence of misbehavior is to appreciate that person back into the better part of himself. The person is given the chance to remember who he is and why he is important to the life of the village.”
    I wish we lived in a world where we could remember ourselves and each other back into harmony. It’s too easy to be critical.

    Thanks for your thoughts!
    kat

  2. What an awesome message for all of us to learn from! God bless :)

  3. this post resonates to the core for me right now…

  4. lunkuse betty paulls says:

    wow! this is excellent. In most cases we find ourselves imprisoned in our chase after the future that we even ignore the little nice things we have in our lives. We lose our little selfless persons to who we wanna be. But this is really interiguing. With numerous lessons. Thank you!

  5. zohaibamjad1 says:

    It is a very reflective post, and you put forth your point of view very concisely and imaginatively. It is as simple as this. We are what we are as a consequence of our past experiences, and with that conclusion in mind, all of us possess the beautiful capability to change provided we are given the right cues. With this in mind, no one has the right to judge anyone. Apart from this, because from the very first day on wards, we are taught how to chase, and the programming of such concepts gets hard wired into our minds, which makes our chase an unending journey. Survival for human beings is the provision of the most basic amenities, such as food, water, shelter. Therefore, in this world, humans are not even competing for survival with each other. Instead, humans just want more, inculcating and storing the not needed luxuries. The not so well off human beings are being famished off the most basic amenities as a consequence.
    Thinking too much is not an issue, in fact, thinking is what is required. Humans need a rationalized outlook rather than acting on impulses. The facts present themselves in the form of pictures nowadays. It is just that people need to be more accepting of the diversity of doctrines and opinions, and take into account that like them, there are other human beings that inhabit this planet, and every person possesses an equal right to inhabit this sphere, rather than one person feeling that he/she has a higher, inherent authority than the other person. After all, we were all born naked.

  6. Great post, I couldn’t agree more. Thank you for this inspiring message.

  7. Cristian, as a fellow December baby (29th) I completely understand where you are coming from when you looked forward to your Christmas/Birthday gifts. I did too. I like the way you said “Maybe there should be a day when we look back, and we try to see past the things we want to forget and catch a glimpse of what’s best in us, that part that’s always there, that doesn’t even have to be invented.” People are so busy they don’t take the time to reflect on things or themselves so that lessons can be learned. Unfortunately, the same mistakes are being made over and over again. Reflection promotes personal growth and development, living your best life because by taking a step back and becoming very still, that’s when our life talks to us, it’s our intuition guiding us in the right direction. I know this because I am reflective. I also like how you said “Dreams never die. They just get locked up inside the most hidden drawers of our souls.” I believe we have all the solutions inside of us, the answers to our problems and the most beautiful dreams. Sometimes we need to find the right key to open the box WHERE everything is being stored deep down and remember HOW to access it again. Very insightful post.

  8. secularscarlet says:

    Interesting and thought provoking post. We should first and foremost Beleive in ourselves and we can then accomplish anything we put our minds too :)

    As an atheist I see Eostre quite differently, the beginning of spring, new beginnings and a world of possibilities .

    Enjoyed ur post as always ☺️☺️

  9. “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” –John 15:13, NIV

    Christ has used these words to inspire me to reflect on His life, His death, and His resurrection. It’s a bit of a long reflection; but I’d love to share it with whoever feels led to read it. It’s not quite relevant to my blog here, so I made a google doc for it. Here is the link to anyone who is interested: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1wBGTWC1RGmqIaNtwheSGKJmUYQ42lLAT-HtVObmEqSA/edit?usp=sharing

    May you be blessed by the One who gave it all!

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