Why failing is (kind of) a good thing

failingThey say you can’t beat a man who doesn’t give up.

The first piece of writing I ever wrote was rubbish. And I kept on adding more rubbish. Then I wrote something else. And then someone said I was a retard. And I wanted to prove them wrong.

I’ve failed time and time again. In all aspects of life.

The first novel I self-published sold 4 copies in 4 months. It got a single 2 star review on Goodreads, and then I unpublished the damn thing.

And yet I didn’t give up.

The thing is, if you live your life the way you want it, sooner or later, you’ll fail at something. You’ll fall, and it’s of utmost importance that the fall doesn’t break you.

Pain is temporary. It may last for a minute, or an hour or a day, or even a year. But eventually, it will subside. And something else takes its place. If I quit, however, it will last forever. – Eric Thomas

The first time you fail, it’s painful. It feels as if you’re never going to regain trust. It’s as if some part of you just went missing. And you might spend an awful lot of time searching for it.

We never truly lose hope, but we do lose strength and courage. And without them, hope is just like taking painkillers to fight off an infection. It takes away the pain, but it doesn’t fix anything.

When that happens, we don’t expect to rise up again. We just hope for it, we just dream for an invisible hand to pick us up.

And yet…

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. – Confucius

Making art is failing. Time and time again, we reach for something we don’t even know exists, and time and time again, we get closer and closer to reaching it… but we never do.

So I fail quite often. And yet I don’t give up. I keep on writing, more and more, and I add more failures on top of the previous ones.

The funny thing is that those failures become a ladder you can use to climb your way to what dream you want to make come true.

Everything I am, everything I have, and everything I write is just the culmination of years and years of failing. So, if there’s anything worthy of appreciation in me, it’s just that: I’ve failed so many times that I’ve become somewhat good at something.

Odds are that I live thousands and thousands of miles away from you. We’ve never met, and most likely never will, and the truth is that you can read what I write simply because eight years ago I was stupid enough to think writing was easy. When I was proved wrong, I didn’t give up.

I try to end my posts with a strong line. Tonight I’m just gonna quote Winston Churchill: If you’re going through hell, keep going.

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16 thoughts on “Why failing is (kind of) a good thing

  1. This is a very inspiring article, thank you so much for sharing. There is nothing harder than being a writer trying to make the world wiser and colourful. It is almost impossible and yet we bend over our laptops for hours in the attempt. So thank you, it is really inspiring!

  2. Hi Cristian,

    I am always on the look out for inspiring and motivating content and glad I found yours. I wrote about how failure is awesome in one way, as it trains us to be humble and strong. A related quote about failure is the one from Jake the dog of Adventure Time: Sucking at something is the first time to being good at something.

    Thank you for the inspiration.

    Luna

  3. I liked what you said about ‘Making art is failing. ‘ That makes sense to me. I draw and paint because I love it and that love is what brings me back to try again and again. I find that being afraid of failure is a big block to being an artist. When I stop trying to be perfect, that is the time when things really start to flow. It’s like I have to let go of success and failure and just follow what I love.

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