Resilience

strength“You never know how strong you are… until being strong is the only choice you have.” – Cayla Mills

I’m going to tell you something no motivational speaker would ever dare tell you: genuine strength can’t be taught, learned, bought, borrowed, or understood. Genuine strength, defined as the ambition, courage, and stamina to do whatever you want to do most in this world comes from the realization that you are the only one who’s going to pay the price for success.

That is it.

You really don’t need someone to keep you motivated, someone to keep an eye on you so you don’t become lazy. There’s no point in doing something if you can’t do it by yourself, for yourself, because you can and want to.

I enjoy watching those motivational videos on Youtube, or reading about this or that person who reached a breaking point in their life. I like to read about struggles that makes us human. But it never really helped me achieve anything.

The truth is, you have to do this by yourself. The moment you can’t find any more excuses, the moment you can’t blame anyone else for your mistakes, that’s when you can either give up or try again. You can run and hide, or simply try to take over the world.

It’s really simple.

I write because that’s what I like doing, because that’s my way of leaving some sort of mark on this world, and because I feel I’m somewhat good at it. I also write because I’ve been doing it for over ten years now, and I don’t want to feel like I’ve wasted that much time on something that wasn’t worth it.

You can only climb to the top if you climb alone. The sooner you realize this, the better. Yes, some folks are going to help you on your way up or try to stop you. That’s inevitable. But you have to keep telling yourself that if you want it, you can have it, as long as you try harder and harder each time you fail.

We’re like Sisyphus and his boulder. That’s probably the best way to look at life: repetitive to the brink of madness, always one inch away from Heaven, always one second too late or too early.

Most people expect things to happen. That’s a mistake. Things rarely “just happen.” You have to make things happen.

Sadly, the only way you get to realize this is on your own terms. It might take a while, and even if you read these words and think I’m right, it’s still going to take you some time (or maybe forever) to realize what it’s really all about.

Because, you see, when you feel tired, that’s when you give up on doing whatever it is you like doing. You don’t want to fight the pain, the boredom, the routine. You’re not willing to give up sleep or food or a comfortable life to become who you’ve always thought you were meant to be.

The most I spent writing was 72 hours straight. And it wasn’t because of a deadline, but because I wanted to write something that I never even sold in any way. I didn’t make money of it, I didn’t share it with the world. I just wrote it, but it made me a better writer.

The only difference between people is related to how much they really want something, how much they’re willing to fight for what they want. Make no mistake, because everyone on this Planet wants something. Wishes for something. How we fight, how far we’re willing to go, how much of our comfort we can sacrifice in order to to get what we want most, that’s what makes the difference.

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6 comments on “Resilience

  1. Suaylia says:

    You are such a great writer!
    This was incredibly deep!
    Yep genuine strength can never be taught, only experience can fulfill it.

  2. Miriam says:

    This was so inspiring. Felt it to my core today, and agree with everything that you wrote. We are the only ones that can motivate ourselves, thank you so much for a wake up call this morning.

  3. mitchteemley says:

    Hard truth–cousin to the fact that we learn almost exclusively from our failures. Write on, Christian!

  4. timelesswheel says:

    Awesome post, thanks for sharing ☺ Learnt it the hard way

  5. This post is great and you are a very good writer!

  6. calliemm says:

    I am such an advocate for being your own Guru (as in teacher, tutor, sage, counsellor, mentor, guiding light, spiritual leader, leader, master – we have the power within to do it all) … it doesn’t hurt to listen and take guidance from others, but I agree – it is me who has to do the work. No one can do that for me. Great read, thanks.

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