We are the people

“Where are the people?” resumed the little prince at last. “It’s a little lonely in the desert…”

“It is lonely when you’re among people, too,” said the snake.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

It is said loneliness does not mean having no one around. Being utterly and inconsolably alone. No. Loneliness is the inability to communicate what you feel is important to those around you. Being constantly misunderstood.

Funny.

They say birds of a feather flock together. They say that we become alike the five people we spend most time with. Yet, sometimes, we find ourselves among people who make us feel lonely.

I do not feel lonely by myself. I have lots of stuff to do. I keep myself busy. I keep myself learning. There’s a lot of things to do by yourself. But sometimes I felt lonely… lonely beyond any possible translation.. among other people. At parties and such. I would write stories in my head. I would imagine the comfort of my home waiting for me. I just had to wait a few more hours.

It is, indeed, lonely among people too.

But I dare ask: do the people who make you feel lonely… are they really your people? Your kind of people? Are they really the ones you’d do anything to spend time with?

Whatever is the answer you find, that’s also the cure for loneliness.

The way I see it, loneliness is an yearning for a certain kind of connection. It’s the desire to be understood by another. To be trusted, to trust in return.

We desire meaning above everything else when it comes to other people.

We oftentimes forget this.

We. The People. We, the lonely among so others just like us.

lonely

Such a sad truth, isn’t it?

That we are more than ever before, yet we feel lonely like never before.

While we spend time and resources on finding cures for diseases of the body, we should also allocate the same amount of effort into finding cures for diseases of the soul. For they are intimately related.

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5 comments on “We are the people

  1. “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” -Robin Williams

  2. Diseases of the soul…. Yes. That’s what loneliness isv a disease of the soul. I loved how you explained that loneliness is a desire to have a certain kind of connection. That’s absolutely right. It’s the reason why we feel alone even in a crowd. Because you’re nothing like the crowd.

  3. I feel like new technologies and social norms are making us less alone but more lonely. it is getting harder to find this trust and understanding

  4. Story of my life. Though I think it’s less the people around me than it is actually just me. Social anxiety and nebulous ennui.

  5. LanceMaxx says:

    You are the writer of true masterpeices. Keep up the great work. And I agree that the diseases of the soul are in sad need of a cure. Lonliness is the saddest disease. So many afflicted with it do not recognise their plight, nor would they know its cure.

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