Real People

“It wasn’t only wickedness and scheming that made people unhappy, it was confusion and misunderstanding; above all, it was the failure to grasp the simple truth that other people are as real as you.” – Ian McEwan

They say the biggest distance between two people is misunderstanding. It creates this gap between people. Or is it a wall? And it’s frustrating, isn’t it? It does make you feel as if you’re alone, the only one who thinks and says and acts in a certain way.

And by feeling so don’t we diminish others as well? Don’t we fail to understand that even though they are different, they’re still inherently the same as us? And they deserve to be treated the same way we’d like to be treated.

I don’t know, it’s a difficult question to answer.

But could you hate someone if you knew why they do what they do? If you could truly understand them? Their thoughts? Their feelings? Know their past? Their struggles? What they want? What they have lost?

That’s the thing, I’m afraid. It’s not that we are incapable o caring about others, it’s just that we rarely get to know them. To really know them. And thus we never get to understand them. And the wall is still there…


6 thoughts on “Real People

  1. I’ve had many vicious arguments with my father. During one which went on a long time time, I caught him uncharacteristically off guard. I asked him if he loved his mother which I knew he did. Then I asked him how he would feel if someone treated his mother the way he had treated mine. No answer. I went on to ask him why he abused my mother and I, what was in it for him, what he got out of it. After a pause, he said “Honestly, I don’t really know.”.
    Once again in life, I Was forced conclude that some people just have bad in them, and there’s no understanding to be had, and our compassion is poured out on those people like so much water on the ground.

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  2. It’s ironic that the rough edges of our personalities are what allow others to latch on, but are also what we choose to omit about ourselves most of the time. The less-than-perfect attributes we possess make us genuine in the eyes of others, giving them something to relate to as they get to know who “I” am. I too believe that a lot of our problems could be solved if we could, as your title implies become “Real People.”


  3. I personally found that understanding the plight of others dissolves judgement. I’m reminded of a story by Stephen Covey (I think) where a man got on a public bus with kids who were making a racket while the man just sat there. Stephen sat there criticizing the man for not controlling his kids. When Stephen finally said something, the man apologized and admitted his wife had just died. Stephen’s instantly empathized with the man.

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