“In any given moment we have to options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” – Abraham Maslow
People go through a lot. Don’t think that they don’t. All of us has to carry a certain pain, a certain tragedy. We all have our struggles, our fears, our losses. We all go through experiences that make it impossible to return to the person we used to be.

But most people don’t grow through what they go through.

Imagine being on a small boat. In the middle of the ocean. A storm comes. It badly damages the boat, but somehow you make it out of the storm alive. Now, the storm is gone. The sky is clear. No clouds. Despite being badly damaged, the boat is still afloat.

What do most people do?

Forget the storm even happened. Or prey that another one won’t ever come back. Or spend their time being afraid of another storm.

What almost no one does?

Fix the damn boat. Or build another one. A bigger and stronger one.

People waste their lives running away from what they fear, instead of using pain and fear to their advantage.

Challenges make us stronger. What doesn’t kill you…

Makes you wish it did.

But then it makes you stronger. Much stronger than you would have been if nothing bad hah happened.

But you’ve got to let it. You’ve got to learn. You’ve got to grow and accept responsibility for your life.

That is all.


20 thoughts on “Challenges

    • I could see that. Especially since not all “storms” are brought on by your own actions. I think the take away is the idea is to find the value for your life and care for it above all else.

      • There’s one thing you can control: how you react to what happens to you.

        And, yes, most storms are not of our own making. They just happen randomly. Which is why self control is so important.

        • we learn from our mistakes; we grow from our failures, personal tragedies, and even our success. For many years, I tried and failed – at school, at various occupations, relationships, marriage, raising kids. I consider myself an overcome-r and and a success. In all these areas, I now consider myself succeeding ; it is a process. If you keep going, keep learning and NEVER give up — you too will succeed. Do not measure yourself by the world’s standards.

          • Thank you for the encouraging words. I don’t care about money or fame. My idea of success is happiness and being surrounded by those I love. I have sacrificed everything, including my happiness for my children. I did everything I could to make their lives better, and I thought that was the right thing to do. It just hurt reading the post because it made me see that my unhappiness is my fault. If I had done things differently then, I would have had the life I wanted, and the only person I have to blame is myself.

            • I can empathize with your unhappiness, but I want to encourage you to let go of your hurts and look past sacrifice. There’s a passage in scripture that talks about God not looking for sacrifice but truly a people that love Him. I think it can teach us that ‘sacrificing everything’ for another’s happiness was self-defeating. People, including those closest to us, will sometimes hurt us. There is no use in ‘fault’ but only in forgiveness, starting with ourselves. find strength.

  1. A ship in harbor is safe . . .
    . . . But that’s not what ships are built for.
    And neither is a human being. When You play things too safe, you end up in a rut. And we all know another name for a rut is a grave with ends kicked out.

  2. That is the harsh truth that I wish most people understood. Hiding from fears will never make them go away nor will you ever overcome them. They’ll become a burden unless something is to be done. Rather than tell what you are afraid of, tell of when you WERE afraid of it & what was done to purge it from yourself.

  3. How about looking at our own boat and trusting that everyone has his/her own road in life and it is not for us to decide when and how change and growth should happen in their lives. Unless we want them to take responsibility for their own lives so that we don’t feel responsible for them anymore. Which takes us back to our selves. And the limits of our responsibility that we must set very clearly. We, believe it or not, are only responsible for ourselves

  4. Thanks for writing this. I really like the imagery of fixing your “damn boat” after the storms in life hit.
    This in line with the idea that their are two paths after tradgedy – post traumatic stress which we hear about all he time or – post traumatic growth.
    Thanks again for the post.

  5. This is very true. I wish more people understood this, it’s not something I would consider harsh, only smart. Something bad happened? That’s horrible. But now that you have an idea of what can happen, you can better prepare for it. You shouldn’t forget about it and hope it never happens again. Life isn’t like that, so why not make things a bit easier for yourself and grow from your experience? Easier said than done, I know, but nothing worth doing is ever easy.

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