Is it natural to feel ashamed or humiliated? Yes, of course it is natural, it is human. What can we do about it? Well, first it is important to recognize it and acknowledge that everybody experiences these emotions- yes, everybody. But they are not one and the same, there is some difference between them, giving shame the opportunity to be the worst among them.
Here is a very oversimplified way to differentiate these very complex emotions by our own thoughts or beliefs:
“I am bad” (shame)
“I did something bad” (guilt)
“I deserve this” (shame)
“I don’t deserve this” (humiliation)
All of the above may result from one same situation lived by different people and vary according to each person’s previous experiences. The same event may cause humiliation for someone and also cause deep damaging shame for another. This is important because humiliation fades away but shame remains.
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