Real life vs. Social Media


“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” Steven Furtick

One of the sad truths of today is that technology consumes us. It’s not just about the time, but how we use that time.

Social media, for instance, provides us with both an escape and a way of searching for a certain kind of validation from others.

We want the approval and admiration of others and we edit our lives to appear better than they really are.

But what happens when we get absorbed by the glitz and glamour of other people’s lives?

You lie to yourself and pretend that you are happier than you really are, and then you see other people doing the same thing but you fail to recognize the lie.

We’re all actors, and in playing this fantasy game we fail to grasp the simple fact that real life is always just outside our windows.

Real life is about being aware of your surroundings, about other people and their needs. Real life is about real people.

Real life is about experience. About genuine experience, the one you only “stumble upon” when you leave your comfort zone.

Real life is about struggles, not selfies. Real life is about getting broken and fixing yourself, not counting the wounds in a pathetic attempt to gather as many likes as possible.

Real life is about building confidence and discipline and patience, not about feeding your ego with other people’s (often misplaced) admiration.

Real life is about staying true to yourself. Be who you want to be, because that’s what you want, not because you want him or her to like you.

Real life is about enjoying the process, not becoming obsessed with the results.

By pretending to be anything other than who we really are we lose so much. It takes a phenomenal amount of mental effort to keep a mask on… And, in the end, undoubtedly, the mask will fall off.

Real life is not about other people and clever ways of manipulating them into fulfilling our needs and desires. Real life is about going out there, into this vast world, and finding out what is it that you really want.

From yourself and from others.

Real life has no like button, no delete button, or any other kind of button, because there’s no remote control.

Don’t like something? Change it.


14 thoughts on “Real life vs. Social Media

  1. I couldn’t have said it any plainer than you did here, I grew up in an era without all this digital hoopla, back in the day your “social media” at best was what they called a BBS service that U could dial into @ an astonishing speed of 9600 baud, and I did all this on an Amiga 500 with a whopping 1 meg of ram! (circa 1986)

    I love the technology we have today though, it’s an amazing window of communication into the world, an unprecedented moment in time, where humans can interact instantly with each other. I think its beautiful, but because we are invariably such a dynamic species, we can never strike the proper harmony and balance that is necessary to implement a technology that propagates faster than our emotional evolution.

  2. Most of my friends are always surprised when I tell them I don’t have a Facebook and Instagram account. Nowadays most people feel they are not pretty or handsome if they don’t get enough likes and comments when they post pictures. Its really sad.

  3. Man, did you hit it on the head. Personal relationships is all about sharing the good with the bad. it’s about having a meal together, and seeing the gray in the other persons hair or the lines on their faces.

    Our virtual avatars on the other hand, reflect more who we aren’t rather than who we are.

  4. Social media suppose to.share our lives and connect with others, but too bad many use it the wrong way. Social media allow usto consume content, bt now the content consume us. It def has it advantages but it has made us more lonely. Regardless, i still prefer face to face communication.

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