Expectations

“Expectation is the root of all heartache.” – William Shakespeare
Odds are that you set your expectations too high. Why is this important? Why is this even in this book?

Because your expectations are going to work against you. And you are going to want to give up. When you write a post and no one bothers to comment, when it feels as if you are not having the results you wanted, which means you aren’t good enough, and maybe this isn’t for you.

I know. Been there, done that.

First month blogging, I had five hundred views in total. Not what I was expecting.

You’ve got to learn to act without expectation. Easier said than done, right?

But you’ve got to understand that results take time. Longer than you predict. Significantly longer. Also, you’ve got to simply do your thing and enjoy the journey(this is becoming a running theme).

Blog for the sake of it. Blog because you have something to say, not because you want to say something.

This might seem like such a big cliche to you, but we often forget that cliches tell the truth. One that is so obvious that we tend to dismiss it.

Then there’s this other thing: the things that some people spend lifetimes doing seem effortless. Ever watched a great athlete? Or a brilliant artist?

Heck, most people would think it easy to film themselves and upload said videos on YouTube.

It is not.

You find yourself thinking “I could do that,” you’re not considering the learning curve. You think it’s too easy.

If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere…

That’s why expectations are bad. That’s why being result oriented is bad. Because when dreaming about said results, we always neglect to take into account the obstacles, the sacrifices, all the petty frustrations.

This is not a sprint, which is also why you cannot rely solely on enthusiasm alone to do the job.

As they say, patience is a virtue.

Let go of any expectations, and enjoy the journey.

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This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, the Journey: A No Bullshit Guide to Blogging.

To be released on September the 1st.

Special offer: those of you who pre-order the book will receive a free criticism of your blog.

The Journey: A No-Bullshit Guide to Blogging, only $4.99 on my e-store here.

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17 comments on “Expectations

  1. A n R says:

    Inspiring! 😄

  2. Christian, you offer a very important reminder to us all – especially since most of us become so absorbed with day-to-day necessities that we forget to enjoy the journey. I’m a huge failure at this… I always feel like I need to fill every second of my day with something that I deem important. Taking your advice will be hard, but I’m going to try.

  3. charlesmia says:

    Honestly, you’re one of the most amazing people I’ve come across.
    Hope you find your happiness.

  4. Awesome and much needed advice! Much obliged, and congratulations on your book!!!!

  5. Thanks for the advice, and I do have to check out your book.

    You said you had 500 views in your first month! I think I had three. Which in retrospect is three more than I expected.

  6. Media Drawn says:

    I find for myself, it is a daily battle of training my brain to let go of expectation. Working on loosening the reins of my critical side that creeps in during the creative process. I really like this post.

  7. masoomaaa1 says:

    This was a much needed advice. I hope every person struggling gets to read this. You have a greaaaaaat potential and I’m glad I came across your blogs!

  8. My mentor, Dr Paul Carlin, taught me many years ago: “Keep your expectations of others low.” And now you have taken this truism to new depths! Your blog on expectations really resonated with me.
    And it’s exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing this awesome wisdom with me! It was right on time!

  9. Athena says:

    Good advice 💪🏼

  10. Hanzhen says:

    I totally agree with Shakespeare. That’s why I always remind myself to not expect anything at all. :-D

  11. “If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere…”

    Apply that to life & you’re guaranteed to find your self-worth. And your potential.
    I’ll take this to the grave

  12. Love this. All the best for your book, I’ll wait to get a copy myself.

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