I often say that expectations can break your heart. It is sad but true that most people like the idea of something happening to them, but they don’t want to put in the time and effort required.
The idea is this: nothing works the way you expect it too. It takes longer. The matter of fact is that nothing works the first few times.
2. Stop believing in themselves.
If you are looking for someone who’s going to make all your dreams come true, take a look in the mirror.
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.
Resilience is the ability to face disaster with a smile and keep on fighting for what you want.
3. Get stuck in the past.
The past is a place of reference, not of residence.
Learn from your mistakes, move on.
What happened, happened, and the more time you spend there, the more you’ll break your heart.
4. Dwell on mistakes.
You learn more from failure than you ever do from success, it is true, but it is equally important not to let said mistakes affect your current performance.
No one is perfect, and wishing for perfection is a waste of time and energy. Strive for progress – which means making a lot of mistakes, over and over again, until you become better and stop making them.
5. Fear the future.
The future doesn’t exist yet. Tomorrow is but a promise at best. You cannot control it, so let it go.
Carpe diem, so to speak.
Live in the moment, do the best you can with what you have.
There’s no reason to fear what has yet to present itself to you.
6. Resist change.
Keep an open mind. Embrace uncertainty. In fact, make it one of your principles and understand deeply that one’s ability to face uncertainty usually determines their level of success.
Change is the one true constant of life, and the most adaptable individual is the one to survive.
7. Give up their power.
People give up their power when they think they have none. They also like to find excuses.
You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.
You are the only one who’s responsible for how you feel, how you act, and how you react to what happens to you.
And that is your power.
8. Believe in their weaknesses.
No one’s perfect. Accept that you aren’t either. Accept your faults. Understand that you can progress and learn. You can develop certain skills.
Nothing is set in stone.
Remember the previous part about change? Well, the good news is nothing ever stays the same. Neither will you.
9. Feel the world owes them something.
Being an entitled prick is one of the worst way to go about life.
No one owes you anything. No one. Don’t break your own heart by thinking that they do.
10. Fear failure more than they desire success.
Failure is inevitable. It’s not the opposite of success, but a part of it.
An integral part of learning.
We stumble and fall, over and over again, until we learn how to do it.
Winners keep on going. They do it and do it and do it, and they fail and fail and fail, until they succeed.
11. Never visualize what is possible.
Would you be able to hit a target you do not see? Or cook a dish without knowing the recipe?
12. Feel they have something to lose.
You are going to die. Whether you want it or not. What more do you have to lose?
In fact, the more you hold on to something, the likelier it is that you’ll lose it.
Loss is a part of life. Accept it.
Or is it work smart?
14. Assume their problems are unique.
Maybe your parents, your teachers, or your friends told you that you are unique.
You are not.
Someone else went through what you are going through right now. Learn from them.
Someone else accomplished what you are dreaming about right now. Learn from them. Let their feats inspire you.
15. See failure as a sign to turn back.
Failure is a sign you are trying. Failure is a sign you should try harder. Failure is a sign you are getting closer to success.
Try and fail, but don’t fail to try.
16. Feel sorry for themselves.
Don’t. Just don’t.
Worrying and feeling sorry for oneself never solved any problem. It just gave people who felt powerless something to do while still feeling powerless.
Like sitting in a rocking chair and pretending you are going somewhere.