The power of reframing

Success is this: the ability to play the hand you’re dealt like it’s the hand you wanted.

Life is kind of unpredictable. Roller-coaster from hell gone mad kind of unpredictable. Lots and lots of ups and downs, of stress, of pain and suffering and obstacles. Also, our minds play tricks on us and it seems that it is far easier to focus on the bad, on what we have yet to have, on faults and flaws, on the bad memories.

It’s easy to get caught up in all of this and spend your days being miserable and wishing things were different. But, newsflash, wishing doesn’t do anything. Does not change things. It just gives you something to do, while ignoring the reality of the world around you, while life passes you by.

Hence, the importance of reframing.

Cognitive reframing is a psychological technique that consists of identifying and then disputing irrational or maladaptive thoughts. Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts and emotions to find more positive alternatives.

Thank you, Wikipedia, for this definition. Couldn’t have said it better myself.

A way of viewing and experiencing events to find more positive alternatives.

Laptop breaks? Well, it’s nice because I can buy or new one. Or I’ll just use pen and paper to write my stories.

Girlfriend leaves you? Well, there’s your chance to find someone even better. To spend more time doing what you love, developing a hobby or passion, or improving yourself.

Any negative event can be reframed.

But here’s the trick: do this in such a way that allows you to play the hand like it is the one you’ve always wanted.

Don’t do stuff like this.

The way you interpret reality should aid you in becoming your best self. Should inspire you to act. Nothing is so terrible that can’t be fixed in a certain way, nothing is so great that you have nothing else to improve upon.

You can be terrified by the thought of you dying one day, or you can be motivated by it.

You can let all that you do not know stand in the way of success, or you can just learn.

Failure? It’s just an experience that will help you become better.

It’s not what happens that matters, but how you interpret what happens. It’s how you react. It’s what you learn from the experience.

If your fiance cheated on you, then it’s up to you to decide if you ever want to date someone again, if all the people are cheaters and liars, if you are so damaged that you’re not worth loyalty and honesty.

A million ways to experience life, and people choose to most negative and harmful one.

Reframe your misfortune before your misfortune becomes the only thing that defines you.

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9 thoughts on “The power of reframing

  1. Very good point here for all to benefit from. Love the encouragement to overcome any obstacle. For me it just seems to be the easy way out to just get mad and upset at adversity instead of “reframing” my thoughts to accept the test as actually being designed for me. Many times I view adversity as rungs in a ladder that must be stepped on to advance. Nice post.👍🏾🙂

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    • Well, yes. That’s called being emotionally reactive. Taking the easy way out. Some things you can change, some you can’t. But you can’t change anything unless you change your mindset from the one who caused your problems in the first place.

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    • It is. Been doing it for a few months now. Also take a few moments when something bad happens and think of the best way to reframe it. Someone says something harmful, I imagine they had a rough day or something like that.

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