On happiness

Happy people learn that happiness, like sweat, is a by-product of activity. You can only achieve happiness if you are too busy living your life to notice whether you are happy or not.
Frank Pittman

We all desire comfort and safety. Those who live on a month to month basis wish to have enough money in the bank to never have to worry about the next paycheck again. The lonely wish for someone who’ll cure their loneliness for ever. The broken hearted want their happily ever after. The damaged dream of fairytales, sinners dream of Heaven, and most of us simply dream of life being okay until the end of times.

But here’s the big secret: life is a struggle. One that never ends. The fight for survival is something you cannot escape. Comforts breeds insecurity, unhappiness, and having too much time to think ensures that you eventually fail at life itself.

Being busy, being productive, doing what you love, loving what you do…

All of them cliches, all of them true.

Happiness is not a destination to be found, but a way of travel.

Happiness is not a state of mind, but the by-product of several productive states of mind.

Happiness is to act in accordance to who you feel you should be, not who someone else expects you to be.

Happiness is not to be pursued, but to be attracted.

I know, all of these are not terribly helpful. But, then again, anyone who tells you they’ve created a step-by-step guide to being happy, a secret recipe or formula, are just trying to sell you something.

The moment you wake up in the morning, walk to the mirror and say these words: “I love you.” As silly or uncomfortable as you might feel, stare yourself in the mirror and say the words out loud. Do it for a few days, and eventually these words will make you smile.

And isn’t a smile, a genuine smile, proof of happiness?

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19 thoughts on “On happiness

  1. I find that happiness is an attitude. One can accept their circumstances in some sense, and feel the feelings that come along with that, but the attitude toward that is such that one can still remain happy knowing that the sadness will pass. I enjoyed this blog post.

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    • Thank you, Janelle. And, yes, you are right. We’ve got to feel whatever feelings, accept them, but never try to sustain the negative feelings. Just accept them and then let them go, because otherwise we might develop a habit for negative thinking and emotions.

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  2. this is the truth, everyone is waiting for the big moment of change, which will bring the “true joy” in their life, and in search of that big moment we all missing the real small happy moments that come everyday, with anyone, with so many things. and then people blame their life for not giving them the real happiness, but the truth is it’s always there, we just don’t see it.

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