What I learned by being a dreamer

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”  Harriett Tubman

My father would always jokingly (or maybe not) ask me how do you call those who have a lot of ideas? I’d say “idealists” and he’d start laughing and say “idiots.”

I have always dreamed big, I have always imagined myself reaching for the stars.

When I was six years old, I’d dream that one day I’d travel to the US, change my name to Chris Packlem, and become the richest man in the world. I’d own all the world’s largest companies, and have an assistant by the name of John. I had absolutely no idea how that was going to happen, and I thought that I’d start by opening a grocery store somewhere in my twenties and then things would take off. But I had no doubt about it.

Then I had the vision of becoming a writer. No, no. I was already a writer. In my mind. I loved stories. I could invent anything about anyone in a matter of seconds. Writing was easy. Not much to do, except write some words down and then collect paychecks and sign books and go to the premiere of the movie adaptation Warner Bros. had to make of your books.

I had a lot more dreams from then until now, and I can tell you that without dreaming ourselves into something, we never become it. NEVER!

No matter what people tell you about dreamers and realists and pessimists and optimists and fatalists and hedonists, we all dream. Some dream big, some dream small. Some dream of a better life, some settle for nightmares. Some want more, some want it all, and some want just enough.

But we all dream.

And if we dream long enough, and we visualize and visualize, then our dreams will magically come true.

No, not really. But if we do it long enough, we might get the impulse to act on said vision and try to make it come true. And fail. Probably. And then have to go at it again and again and again.

If you have a dream, and you are willing to put the time and effort towards making it come true, then odds are that it will come true.

Now, the following thing comes to mind: why bother to dream small, when you might as well dream big?

One reason: fear.

Another reason? The subconscious belief that we’re not going to die. We walk around as if we’re never going to die, as if holding a stupid grudge for ten years is nothing. Or working a job you hate, for someone who hates your guts and pays you far less than what you deserve. Or being in a relationship with someone we do not love.

Why dream big?

You’re going to die.

You’re not going to live forever.

You get one life, so you might as well dream big and fail your way to success.

I also learned that dreaming is not enough.

As a matter of fact, that’s the only thing I truly learned about being a dreamer. The one true lesson. All else is secondary. A dream without action is like a bird trapped in a cage. And sooner or later you’re going to end up enjoying the cage. Enjoying the dream, but not making it come true. Enjoying the feeling of freedom, of escape from reality.

This is the most important thing I learned.

I also learned that others will not see it. The dream, I mean. Sometimes, yes, they will help you, if that suits their needs, but they won’t be as invested in your dream as you are.

So don’t wish for magic where there’s none to be found. No one but you is responsible for your dream.

Want it? Work hard to make it happen.

That’s it.

Because that vision belongs to you. It was given to you, to do with it as you please.

Want to waste your life and then regret that you didn’t take the chance to make your dreams come true?

Fine.

But you will regret it, and you better prepare yourself, for regret is an ugly bastard and, much like death, it cannot be beaten.

“There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.” – Douglas H. Everett

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7 thoughts on “What I learned by being a dreamer

  1. I’m a dreamer, and even my parents laugh at me at times because I don’t really think anyone thinks that I can become a best selling author or even a successful writer, but I’m at the point in my life where I know if I work hard, I can really achieve what I want and I hope I can show that to my parents and everyone else. Love this post, this is so true!

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  2. Along the way, you discover you may have to walk away from the people around you who aren’t dreamers. If people keep saying you’ll never do it, and you believe them, you never will.
    I believe the old expression goes, “its hard to soar with Eagles when you’re surrounded by Turkeys!”
    The thing I used to tell my folks (my biggest detractors) is that , “A day is coming when I will find myself in old folks home someplace, drooling in my oatmeal, and think I’m lucky if I remember my own name, and I won’t be able to do anything about my dreams. On that day, I don’t want to look back and say those two most horrible words in the English language, “What if . . .”.”

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  3. Yes dreaming is good but must be met with clear objectives along the way to success. There must be that calculated risk because just working hoping something comes from it is counterproductive. You must have clear goals, consistency, talent, and a little bit of luck. It’s like the movie Collateral with Jamie Foxx and Tom Cruise. Foxx character was a dreamer but Cruise was a doer. Not until Cruise let him realize he was wasting his time did he see his own wasted life by dreaming and not acting on it.

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  4. I remember when I dreamt of where I am today and talked about it for the longest time because I’m a firm believer in positive speaking, and my siblings laughed at me and told me ‘oh please we dreamt more than you, won’t work’ I didn’t stop dreaming and saying it and when opportunity presented itself, I was gone with the wind of that dream and acted upon it. Great piece truly. I wrote about why it’s important to not delay one’s dreams http://www.itanndy.com/2018/03/23/why-you-should-not-delay-your-dreams

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