What You Don’t Know about Success

Success is a word gets thrown around a lot. It’s become meaningless. We all want it and the definition of success is different for everyone.

Some of us want a beautiful family life. Some of us want a successful business. Some of us want lots of money so we can exchange it for goods and services.

To make matters worse, society has developed a set of tools to help you become comfortable. To have what you want, when you want it, which is right here, right now.

We have lost track of who we are supposed to be. Life and success are harsh. Unless you are will to fight like hell for what you want, then you’ll never be successful.

Consider this your wake up call!

It’s time to stop fantasizing and do what you have to do to get what you want.

Whatever your definition of success is, you’ll need to have the following:

1. A mindset that reflects abundance in your life.

Most people live out of scarcity. They are self-absorbed, selfish, scared, and tired. The moment you treat every person you meet as a means to get something you want, that’s when you’ll continue to fall short of your goals and dreams.

Coming from a place of abundance is how you win at life. Expectations are ugly and we can all see them from a mile away. Expectations are filled with self-interest, self-promotion, huge egos, and a general lack of wisdom and knowledge.

Stop thinking about what’s in it for you, and focus on what you can give.

2. Invest in your mindset.

That brain of yours is controlling everything you do and all it wants is to keep you alive. Just that.

But I believe that we are meant to thrive, not just to survive.

What do you want? To survive and call it a living, or to genuinely, passionately live life on your terms?

Your mind will keep fighting against your best interests unless you program it to function in an effective manner. It takes time and often money to teach yourself how to think.

Most people never take the time to refine their mindset, to choose only the beliefs that serve them, but you must if you want to be successful.

3. Embrace life’s uncertainties. Become comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Everything worth doing lies just outside your comfort zone. Period. Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

If all you do is bask in the comfort of the activities and people that you know well, you’ll never go to new heights.

Success is partly about exploring the unknown.

“Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” – Francis of Assisi

We live in a society that advertises instant gratification. I get it. Everything’s a swipe away. You order something, and it arrives on the same day.

But there are two things you can never, ever get instantly: life satisfaction and meaningful relationships.

You cannot rush them. You cannot be sure of them.

Doing easy stuff doesn’t feel like success and it won’t make you happy.

Fear on the other hand often looks like something that should be avoided. When you suck at public speaking, you tell yourself lies such as “I’m an introvert” or “I’m just not a natural at giving speeches.”

These are excuses that society gives you for free as a false antidote to fears that undoubtedly come up in your life. We all have fears but running away from them will only cause a lot of pain and suffering in your life.

Stop sitting on the couch and watching TV for six hours straight. Stop stalking people you never met on social media. Stop working “cushy jobs” that barely allow you to pay the bills, looking for shortcuts that allow you to cheat the system, gambling, and being lazy and unmotivated.

Stop making excuses for where you are in life. Assume responsibility. You got yourself in this predicament, and it’s entirely up to you to get you to where you want to be.

4. Figure out what you want.

This is so crazy: Most people don’t know what they want. They’ve never spent the time to understand what sets their souls on fire.

Yes, knowing what you want can prove to be a daunting task.

And we all lose our way at least once or twice in life.

But you have to take the time to try out different things, to experiment, to be brave in facing your fears and embracing new challenges.

No matter how old you are, if you don’t know what you want by now, don’t be angry. Choose action over anger.

Go out there and try lots of stuff. Give a speech, travel the world, start a blog, write one chapter of a book, make some art, learn how to dance.

Just go out there and live. Live, dammit! Find your passion.

Average people don’t know what they want. They lack clarity, which in turn translates to zero motivation to get out of bed. You need to experiment like a five-year-old and enjoy the process.

 5. Be willing to sacrifice. A lot.

Sacrifice could mean having to stay home on Saturday to work rather than going out with your friends. It could be losing girlfriends, being ridiculed and criticized.

It could mean a few sleepless nights, having to give up food and comfort, having to give up on vacation time.

Sacrifice is the price you must pay in order to be successful. It must be paid upfront and in full.

Stop asking yourself whether or not you can do something. You can.

You can have anything you want in life, but you must also sacrifice something else in order to have it.

Ask yourself: “What do I have to give up so I can have it?”

Are you willing to pay the price?

If not…

6. Realize that you need mentors.

Yup, you need to find your Yoda. You need to first be a padawan until you become a master.

7. Know that money isn’t the only resource, nor is it the most valuable one.

Time. This is the ultimate resource.

Energy. Eating right, taking great care of your body, working out, giving up on junk food, sugar, alcohol.

Passion. Being passionate to the point that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get the resources that you need in order to become successful.

Average people think the only resource they need is money.

You must understand that resources go way beyond what money could ever do. Money is simply a by-product of value. And you can always get more money, but never more time.

Choose to spend your time wisely.

8. Don’t think. Just do!

No matter what you do, you’ll have to take certain decisions. You will need to be able to choose a path when many are being offered.

If you spend your time overthinking stuff, you’ll never get anything done.

There is something that is called decision fatigue. We can only make a number of good decisions a day.

You must know what you want, and why you want it.

Half the reason you take so long to make a decision is that you don’t know what you really want. You’re making decisions without a blueprint to make the process quicker. Overthinking is the death of all good ideas and opportunities.

Average people often fall into the trap of indecision. You must be clear on what you want, balance the uncertainty and fear, and charge towards making a decision.

9. Play for the long game.

Short-term results won’t make you successful. We can all find a short-term opportunity, arbitrage, hack, etc.

Success is about clarity of purpose, freedom from outcome, and being able to delay gratification.

Overnight success is just a myth.

Stop looking for shortcuts. Stop finding excuses. Stop gambling your life away by focusing too much on luck. You must have a long-term view of where you’re headed and be okay with rapidly changing direction as required.


10. You’ll need to help others.

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.”  —  Zig Ziglar

 

Sounds simple enough, right?


Success, more than anything else, and no matter how you define it, means being present in the moment. Being aware of your surroundings. Being self-aware. Being emphatic. Being kind. Being generous.

Success means to always strive to be your best self. To always aim to improve yourself, to help others as well.

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6 thoughts on “What You Don’t Know about Success

  1. It’s really odd how many people use money as the standard for success.
    I remember an old episode of “The Waltons”. Seems John Walton Sr. was hosting the class reunion. Everyone in his class had gone off the mountain, pursued careers, made money, and a some were famous. He on the other hand had stayed, raised a family, and worked the land. And he’d been the one the was most likely to set the world on fire. By that bar he was a total failure
    Well, during the course of the story he finds out that they all envied him. Of them all, he was the only one that was happy. He had everything they wanted, and their money and fame couldn’t buy that. By that standard, he was the only one who had made it.
    I always thought it an interesting story.

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