The truth of the matter is that people always leave. Whether we want them to or not. Whether they want to or not. Something happens and they are lost to us forever.
And then what remains is their memory. The image we have created inside our heads. A grey skin covers what we felt for them and can no longer feel.
To paraphrase John Green, you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. It is true. And there’s nothing more unbearable than the realization that you can hope all you want for someone to come back and they will never come back, because they never really existed.
Such an odd things happens: people tell us who they are, yet we pretend we don’t see it because we want them to be who we want them to be.
But don’t worry, because time heals everything. Whether you want it to or not. The longest distance between people is time, for it blurs that picture we have. It fades everything away.
But something always remains. The Portuguese call it “saudade.” The love that remains. Nostalgia. The love that no amount of poison can ever kill. The love that eventually alters itself to become what is left when nothing can be done anymore. The bitter sweet feeling that engulfs memories.
And we carry people around like this. Inside our heads. And we go on with our lives. Whether we want it or not.
And, in a way, they never leave. But they never return to us either.
As Maya Angelou said, we may not remember what someone did to us but we do remember how they made us feel about them.
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Beautifully written , Cristian!
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Thank you!
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What a beautiful thought provoking post…I love it!
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Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed reading it.
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True, some people were not meant to stay for long in our lives…♥
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I about cried 😢
This is so beautiful and so true 🙂
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Wow… incredible insight!!
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Well written post👌
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You just wrote how I always feel and think. I always think about people I can’t have back whether by choice or circumstance. It drives people crazy when I talk about the same things all the time but they’re a part of me and I always think about them.
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So true. Someone might leave you, but if it’s someone you can’t forget, you’ll never forget how they made you feel.
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It’s so sad seeing someone who once was a part of you leave. When they tell you that this is end and you can do nothing about it but hoping you can go back in time and stay with them forever. Great post Cristian 🙂
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Ah, great message. “Such an odd things happens: people tell us who they are, yet we pretend we don’t see it because we want them to be who we want them to be.” I do think we can move on though… even the best of ex-companions can be replaceable. Or… you can make your own life so exciting that there’s no time to remember them. 🙂
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I don’t even know how to communicate this…
This is by far the best description I’ve ever come across about the bittersweet feeling of losing someone. The joy of having them, even for a moment. And the anguish of never seeing them again. Utterly beautiful!
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Thank you, Nikki.
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Brilliant!
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