Depression is a Luxury

First of all, I’d like to say that I have been that guy. The loser. Depressed, suicidal, yet doing my best to motivate others. The words I wrote were for myself, for those like myself, and for those who could, one day, end up like me.

That being said, I believe in every single word spoken in that video. I understand the principles at work, I have lived in comfort (and depression), I have desired comfort, and the more I wanted comfort, the more discomfort I had in my life.

If you are inclined to disagree with me, or feel that I am insensitive to people’s mental health, I do urge you to listen Joe Rogan in this video, then try to see it in a less civilized manner. See yourself as less than human, and a bit more animal, and see that happiness and mental well-being is the result of overcoming struggles, not avoiding them.

I believe that there’s so much wrong in the way we are educated, in the way that we are taught to pursue comfort, luxury, material things, or even completion. The struggle never ends. It never does.

That’s why happiness is a way of travel, not a destination. It’s not about goals, but about habits. It’s about the routine. It’s about the fight, not the victory.

I think that we need to realize this, we need to understand that our own hatred of discomfort will bring us further and further into the sort of mental chaos that makes one want to slit his own throat.

This is the true talk about mental health. Not treating us like we’re unbelievably fragile, but rather that we are creatures created for discomfort, for struggle, for pain. That suffering is inevitable, but choosing how to suffer makes one happy.

This is all.

Agree or disagree, this is the truth, and avoiding it, just like we avoid almost every difficult or complicated thing in our lives, will not make it any less true.


  1. I listened to the podcast, and I think you could sum it up with Nike’s “Just Do It” and add on “Or else you’re an idiot or else it’s your fault for being depressed.” We are not animals, but complex beings. A lot goes into mental health- your biology, upbringing, current situation, physical health… I believe in absolute truth as you also seem to, but I don’t believe it applies to depression. It’s not a black and white issue, and every person’s story is completely different.

    For example, here’s mine, with more details than you’ll probably want. My dad died, which I think I was mildly depressed from, I immediately got married and followed my husband’s military career all over the country, leaving behind friends and the security of “home” with each move. Then I birthed and nursed two kids, and for four years my body was not my own, getting depleted of nutrients. My brain’s chemical composition got all out of balance. I had a traumatic second birth, a blood transfusion, and I could hardly walk for months. During that time I moved cross country twice and went through a long dark winter in Seattle, which was hard for this GA girl. I tried for a long time to be okay, to DO things to make myself better, but nothing worked. I was suicidal. I come from a family of internalizers who don’t communicate their feelings, so that also contributed to the way I handled it. Once I got on medication, my mind felt more at peace. Now, if I get depressed again, I know the chemical side is being handled, and I can look at it from a more physical, situational standpoint- do I need more exercise for happy endorphins? Do I need to get out of the house and get a break from the kids? Do I need to get my feelings off my chest to a friend on the phone?

    Does anyone else have my exact story? I don’t think so. I think we need to look at people with mental illness with COMPASSION and PATIENCE. It can be a long road to recovery…

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  2. Depression is a luxury like having a swimming pool in the backyard yet drowning yourself in it. It’s like happiness all around yet you get blind. I wish it was a choice so I’d never choose luxury.

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        1. That’s the point. If you do not choose your suffering, then your mind just inflicts some form of suffering on itself. It’s weird, yes, but it’s true. You’ll never escape this. It’s just a choice. Do you choose depression? Do you choose to fight for your survival, even though we are no longer savages? The choice is yours. We all have that kind of freedom, but we are not free from having to choose. Not choosing anything ensures that you mind will rebel against itself, rebel against stagnation, against your desire for peace and comfort.

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  3. I cringe at the way the world romanticizes “depression”. I believe, not to be insensitive, but depression is like a ghost I believed when I was growing up. At the core, depression only exists to the extent one makes of it.

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  4. Are you serious? … a luxury. No, it’s not, it’s a condition that happens to abused and broken people. You should read my article on emotional health on my wellness site. I have a double degree in psychology and social work. Trust me it’s not.

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    1. Debbie, it is not the fall that breaks people, but their fear of falling. Their desire that harsh things should never happen to them.

      If you had to fight for your survival and run from predators, you’d literally have no time to be depressed. Hence, it’s a luxury.

      If you can’t wrap your head around that, I’m sorry to tell you, but those degrees of yours aren’t worth a damn.


      1. We all have falls, it’s what we do with our lives to pick ourselves back up. I have done this, but people always define you, whether you like it or not. We have no control over what others think of us, even when we have put forth our best efforts…that’s what really sucks. Human predators, especially ones that are in power, and wait until you experience that one. For your sake, I hope you don’t.

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  5. I think it is a good idea to implement more coping mechanisms for situations that cause discomfort. Though, I also think our feelings are legitimate. Sometimes negative emotions can propel us to make good decisions, thus shifting our trajectory in life. If we dwell too long in a negative emotions, then the coping mechanisms are helpful. On the other hand, some have more hurdles than others, such as those with chemical imbalances. So for some, shifting a mindset may require more help.

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  6. I have enjoyed reading both your thoughts and the comments by others on this post. I like to see people that disagree on a subject be respectful of the other at the same time. There is an inordinate amount of attacking that goes on that sometimes I confess I just want to slap the person upside the head. Keep up the good work!

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  7. Depression can be caused by some kind of brutal suffering too, happiness isn’t found in suffering , it’s found after suffering. Depression is suicidal and big, I don’t think the depression I’m going through is because I don’t have bigger problems. Depression isn’t your mind playing tricks on you because you don’t have anything to worry about.

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    1. The point is not even to find happiness, but to give some sort of meaning to suffering.

      And, yes, you need something bigger than yourself, and voila!, no more depression.

      That is how Milton Erickson famously cured a woman of depression in just one house visit.

      So, yeah, depression is just your mind playing tricks on you because you don’t have anything to worry about. Thank you. It’s quite a great definition.

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        1. Being me, me, me is part of the problem. And problems are not defined properly here. Anything intellectual, cultural, or social is not a problem. It’s not even supposed to be one.

          We were designed to run and to hunt. Don’t do that? You are slowly falling apart. Physically and mentally.

          Fun fact: the average prehistoric man was not only physically stronger than the average Olympic athlete, but he was also smarter. Way smarter.


    1. Have you even read the post? Do you even understand English well enough to be then commenting on it?

      Try reading the first paraphraph. Slowly. Or translate it with Google Translate. And read it out loud until you understand. It might take a while.


  8. Telling someone with clinical depression to suck it up, that it’s a luxury, is the equivalent to telling someone with diabetes to just stop eating sugar. Anyone with even a modicum of understanding of mental illness knows that there is a difference between unhappiness and dissatisfaction and actual clinical depression. Being clinically depressed is NOT a luxury and it is NOT something anyone at any time would willingly choose. Your post is an insult to all of those who have suffered and still are suffering. Shame on you!

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    1. You should stop making metaphors like that. It makes people laugh.
      Of course you’re going to tell someone with diabetes to stop eating sugar. Are you mentally challenged? That’s what they’ve got to do.
      What are you even doing on the Internet? Why are you letting other people know of your lack of knowledge when it comes to psychology?
      Did you even read the post? I have serious doubts.


  9. I love this post. I couldn’t have imagined myself with the thought pattern and understanding I have for life now, if I hadn’t had depression. Let’s look at the brighter side!

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