Everybody wants to go to Heaven, but no one wants to die

Everybody wants to go to Heaven, but no one wants to die.

Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder, but no one wants to lift heavy weights.

Everybody wants to be successful, to enjoy financial freedom, to be the masters of their own destiny, yet no one wants to grind, to fight, to claw their way from defeat to success.

You know, when we’re kids, our parents tell us that effort is enough. They praise us for trying, for doing our best, even if we fail. Troubles arise when you keep that mentality as an adult. When you do not assume responsibility for your situation.

What I mean by this is that maybe it’s not your fault. Truth be told, it’s not my fault for certain health issues that have been given to me by my parents. Genetics and whatnot. But no one gives a damn whose fault it truly is.

Let me repeat this: in the real world it does not matter who’s to blame for any situation. What matters is who assumes responsibility.

If you are mentally lazy, then you’ll want others to assume responsibility for you. That’s never going to happen. Can’t pay someone else to do your push-ups for you. Can’t tell someone to do your thinking for you.

And this is just an intermediary level of being mature enough to follow your dreams. To assume responsibility, and to want it bad enough so you work hard enough to get it.

But there’s another level, one of life’s most perverse lessons: you can do your best, you can give up sleep, you can show up even if you’re sick, heartbroken, tired, hungry… and still fail.

You gotta hate hard work after this. It suddenly seems to be easier to blame others, even if at the top of the list you should write your own name.

It’s easy to give up. That’s what most people do.

But do you really want to be like everyone else?

Hmm.. I do wonder. And you should ask yourself that.

In any given day, there’s this gap between where you are and where you want to be. This distance. And the only way to shorten the gap is to work. That’s it. Do the work, even when you don’t feel like it, even when all you want is to give up.

That’s it.

No other words are necessary.

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22 thoughts on “Everybody wants to go to Heaven, but no one wants to die

  1. Nope. Effort is enough, that’s all. If I don’t succeed, it’s your fault, Cristian. Lol, just kidding. You made some truly valid points here that I think a lot of us miss. I love everything you had to say here. Personally, I think it’s dangerous to instill that sort of mentality, even on children. Sure, your best is all you can give, but what many end up doing is exactly what you said; they end up thinking effort is enough, they end up wanting to appear at the destination without traveling. It’s often that we spend time dwelling and blaming, rather than assuming responsibility and either accepting our circumstance or trying to change it.

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    • I was raised in kind of a strange way. I mean, my parents always let me do what I wanted. I got to choose my path in life, from the schools I wanted to go to, to what I wanted to study, and what I do for a living. They do not speak English, so they have never read a single word I wrote.

      But, at the same time, they always bailed me out when things got hard. Does that make sense? Don’t know. I mean, they never let things get too hard on me, and this was a mistake. Yes, I would have resented them, but I would have been stronger because of it. I would have understood that I could only have what I worked for, that nothing else lasts, and that nothing else is worth a damn because I would never truly appreciate it.

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      • I hear what you’re saying and totally understand where you’re coming from.

        But take it from an outside POV, you’re probably one of the strongest people I know, and an excellent creator of art of many forms.

        I do get what you’re saying, though, about it being a mistake and that you would have been stronger to learn life lessons in the way you described about letting things become too hard and learning that you can only have what you worked for, but I think you taught yourself those lessons pretty well, and that’s what sets you apart from many people.

        It’s almost as if you as a writer are teaching the little version of yourself all of these lessons, and sharing it with others who can relate.

        Whereas many never learn those lessons or maybe in the wrong ways, you’ve forged yourself by your own hand. So, I respect and admire that. But I see what you’re saying.

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      • My parents were somewhat the opposite. They would see what was happening, where I was headed in the choices I was making. They would then point out the upcoming pitfalls, and leave me to decide if I wanted to continue on the path I had chosen or try something else. So, if I fell into the hole, it was on me. And it was my responsibility to get myself out. They would offer suggestions, but they never stepped in unless I asked them to. And oddly enough, I rarely did. I won’t say I’m stronger or weaker, but I certainly now understand how to look ahead to see where each choice might be taking me. And if it’s not the scenery I want to view, I make another choice.

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  2. “the only way to shorten the gap is to work. That’s it. Do the work, even when you don’t feel like it, even when all you want is to give up.”… I feel like it’s important to add that knowing WHY one is working toward it is crucial. So that when one wants to give up, to throw In the towel when the challenge sets in – when they begin to ‘feel the burn’ – their WHY keeps them going. Putting in the hours, doing the work when one doesn’t feel like it, is made easier if they can remember why they started toward that objective in the first place. Thanks for the writing, I appreciate your words.

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  3. I still am battling with this question. I want to believe that doing your best is enough. But in reality, there are so many other things that do not let this happen. It is still hard for me to reconcile the ideal world with the real world. Well said!

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  4. This post spoke to my soul! I was just having a discussion with a friend of mine about this very topic. So many people want results but don’t want to do what it takes to get them. I guess most of us have been guilty at some point. However, it seems like when you decide that even after you initially fail after putting in effort that you’re still going to keep working, you’re judged harshly or just plain old called crazy. Thank you for this post.

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  5. No doubt there are so many who have either been born with very little self-initiative (rare) or have had no reason to ever try hard at anything ( common) or have wanted to try hard things but have been discouraged by parents and had fear implanted in them ( pretty common) or have tried and failed one too many times and just lost their drive ( not that common). As a runner and ultramarathoner, I have met some really amazing, almost super-human people. They are so driven to succeed at their goals that they will nearly kill themselves in training, run through injuries and pain and dehydration and severe weather ( look up the Arrowhead 135 race or Seven Deserts) , just for the pure satisfaction of finishing the thing they set out to do. I love these people. They may be a bit over the edge, but they are so inspiring!

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