Eight Undeniable Truths That Are Going to Change Your Life

The truth does not change based on your ability to accept it.

I do my best to live life in a way that I am aware of what I do, while also trying not to chase things that are outside of my control.

Here are some of those truths that help me stay in control of my life.

1. Life Is Pain

Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.”

William Goldman

The first person that comes to mind is Gary Vaynerchuk, whose constant social media posting encourages folks to chase happiness instead of money.

Well, sorry to break it to you, but life is pain. If you do not accept this, life is going to break your heart on a daily basis.

The pursuit of happiness? How does that even work? How does one go about it? How long does it last?

Don’t wish for fairytales. Just don’t.

The truth is that you have to make use of your suffering. That you must do your best to choose the battles you want to fight.

Do what is hard every single day, do what is meaningful, and happiness will come as a by-product of your actions.

2. Envy Is Ignorance

“People always get what they want. But there is a price for everything. Failures are either those who do not know what they want or are not prepared to pay the price asked them. The price varies from individual to individual. Some get things at bargain-sale prices, others only at famine prices. But it is no use grumbling. Whatever price you are asked, you must pay.”

W.H. Auden

There’s a price that one must pay for anything. The price is sometimes time, sometimes energy, sometimes compromising oneself.

If someone has more than you, if someone is better than you at a certain skill, you can rest assured that they are worst than you in other areas.

We get what we are willing to sacrifice for.

I spent eight years writing before I earned a single dollar. I was living mostly on coffee, Coca-Cola, and cigarettes. I was also a recluse. I felt as if there was this invisible wall between me and the rest of the world. I cannot count the times I cried whenever I saw people who were in love or seemed to be.

I paid the price. To be able to write my stories, to share them with the world.

Think about that next time you feel like being envious of someone else’s success or achievements. They paid the price. You didn’t.

3. Cynicism Will Poison Your Soul

“Michelangelo’s great perfect marble David cries out to its observer: “You could be more than you are.” When you dare aspire upward, you reveal the inadequacy of the present and the promise of the future. Then you disturb others, in the depths of their souls, where they understand that their cynicism and immobility are unjustifiable. You play Abel to their Cain. You remind them that they ceased caring not because of life’s horrors, which are undeniable, but because they do not want to lift the world up on to their shoulders, where it belongs.

Jordan B. Peterson

Here in Romania a lot of folks tend to believe that rich people are all thieves. Corrupt. They did something bad to acquire their fortunes. And when I tell them that they could also steal, they look at me like…

Play by the rules, if you want to win. If you hate the game, hate the players, you’re only going to be bitter about it for the rest of your life.

You know those guys who call the police whenever a neighbor throws a party?

Well, they do so because no one ever invites them to parties. The same goes for guys who slut-shame women, people who hate on the rich, on the famous, on the talented, on every single other category.

4, The Dog That Can Bite, Almost Never Has To

“Morality is just a fiction used by the herd of inferior human beings to hold back the few superior men.”

Friedrich Nietzsche

We have a saying here in Romania: the dog that barks never bites. The people who are most vocal about their beliefs, about ethics, about the way that we should live our lives, they are most afraid of the chaos that life truly represents.

You know one of the best ways you can gain self-confidence and speak up for yourself? If you are strong enough to defend yourself physically. Funny. But true.

The thing is, unless one is capable of being bad, he cannot be considered good.

A rabbit is not good. It is harmless. Being harmless, being the nice guy, that’s not going to get you the kind of life you dream about. Avoiding conflict makes it so that you attract conflict.

Just take a look at the kind of kids that get bullied. As a matter of fact, take a close look at kids aged 2 to 4 and the way they play together. How mean and aggressive they are. They lie, they steal, they fight. Little monsters.

I think it’s almost a miracle we don’t all end up as serial killers.

There’s a certain darkness in each and all of us, and we must accept our own darkness, and we must be willing to face the darkness in other people’s souls.

Pretending otherwise? You’re just setting yourself up to be exploited by those who do accept the darkness that lies in each and every single one of us.

Think about it.. if you expect the lion to not eat you because you didn’t eat it, guess what’s going to happen?

5. Intentions Don’t Matter

“Remember, people will judge you by your actions not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold but so does a hard-boiled egg.”

Maya Angelou

A few years ago I was deeply in love. Or so I’d define what I was feeling back then. One fine morning, after a particularly long and tedious fight the night before, she decided to break up with me. I didn’t expect it, never thought it could happen.

All I could do was cry and tell her that I loved her as much as I could. That was it. All I could do. What I felt for her, I couldn’t feel more of. There wasn’t more to be felt. There wasn’t room in my heart to love anyone or anything else but her.

It didn’t matter, of course.

The rabbits from my previous truth on life are probably judging her as insensitive and cold.

Here’s the thing: in life, everyone except your mother is going to judge you by your actions. It does not matter that you tried to do the right thing. Did you do it? That’s all that matters.

It does not matter how much you love someone or what you’re willing to do for them, it matters if you love them the way they want to be loved, if you are the person they want to love.

6. Unhappy Kids Raise Unhappy Kids

“The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”

African proverb

A mother is supposed to love her child unconditionally. It does seem to be the one element an awful lot of successful people have in common, but not the only one.

Children are fragile, and you can even break them by giving them too much love and attention, or by never saying no, or by trying to protect them from what you consider to be a dangerous world.

It took me years and years to understand my own self, to get rid of traumas that I had the tendency to downplay.

And the demons that we acquire when we are kids (that we sometimes end up calling destiny) are not so easy to get rid out.

7. Habits, Not Goals

“Successful people just do the things that seem to make no difference in the act of doing them and they do them over and over and over until the compound effect kicks in.”

 Jeff Olson

There’s a good reason why most who set New Years Resolutions fail.

Goals are not as exciting as we think they are. As a matter of fact, most of the time reaching a goal is not as satisfying as daydreaming about it.

Habits, on the other hand, can last a lifetime.

Develop the habits. Focus on the twenty-four hours ahead of you.

Ask yourself who do you want to be, and do something today that brings you closer to becoming that person.

8. Be a King. Always.

“About this time he had the sarcophagus and body of Alexander the Great brought forth from its shrine, and after gazing on it, showed his respect by placing upon it a golden crown and strewing it with flowers; and being then asked whether he wished to see the tomb of the Ptolemies as well, he replied, “My wish was to see a king, not corpses.”


Be the king of your own life. Of your own soul. True mastery is mastery over oneself. Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes. Especially if your voice shakes. You are going to die, no matter what. Do not beg for moments or temporary comfort.

Be a king. Keep your head high.

And remember, always remember, that if you stand for nothing, you will fall for everything. It is better to die on your feet than live on your knees.

If the world asks you who you are, you speak loud and clear, because you if you do not, it will tell you and you won’t like it.

These are some of the truths that I try to remind myself on a daily basis. There are, of course, a lot more, like the fact that most people are wrong (and it always helps to stay away from what the majority thinks or believes in or does), or the fact that we must do something hard every single day, or that we must embrace uncertainty.

What do you think? What are some undeniable truths that you figure out about life?


  1. I love this!
    I think one of mine is – not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay but it’s definitely not something you should love sleep over! (A hard one to learn I think!) ♥️

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    1. I agree with you. It is something I’ve learned myself but there are times when I keep forgetting it. But as the saying goes, if you try pleasing everyone, you end up pleasing no one.

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  2. For me my turning point was making the bed, I never used to do it, just didn’t see the point and 6 months ago I started doing it and along the way I picked up a lot of good habits and slowly but surely getting rid of the bad ones.
    Focus and commitment works wonders :)

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    1. It’s amazing how the little things make a big difference in your everyday life. My basketball coach used to say that time management was going to be the most important skill I would ever have to master. Making the bed is just one of those small habits that leads to staying disciplined and on a routine which is necessary to properly managing your time. If you don’t manage your own time well, someone or something will and not in the most productive way.

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    2. I had seen motivational videos and most of them had suggested that a good routine should start by making up the bed. And I started following that, too. It certainly helped. The little things in life certainly do wonders!

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    1. We are all inherently selfish beings. Even when we do things for others there is something we get out of it usually whether praise or a good feeling inside. No matter how isolated we all continue to become as a society, the universe is structured in a way that rewards collaboration even if it comes with selfish motivations.

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    1. I’m working on being consistent with writing. I’ve been forcing myself to write down my dreams every time I wake up. I don’t know if you have seen that movie Inception, but your dream life is a big reflection of your waking life.

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      1. Aaron there are mental good habits such as seeing the positive in situations, not dwelling on things that don’t go right, and physical good habits; keeping fit with yoga, dance, walking, eating well. How about you?

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        1. I like how you make the distinction between mental and physical good habits. Thanks for sharing!

          For me:
          Mental: Writing, Reading, Vlogging, Attending Group and Individual Counseling, Having deep conversations with close friends and family, watching good movies that make me think or laugh, masturbation (still conflicted on this topic), playing board games on pogo.com
          Physical: Hot baths with candles (don’t laugh lol), bike riding, walking, hiking, definitely eating well and drinking lots of water, I’ve completely given up alcohol (for now), looking forward to trying yoga soon

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  3. Wow! My computer has been acting up for ages, but! My Master been revealing so much I had to record? no time to fix it until today? Why?

    My Master wanted me to read your post. Wow! I am not alone proclaiming His truth–He has 7,000 (perfect #) doing the same! How encouraging at this crucial times that we are going through. I’m to follow you as we follow His Presence in our hearts. 🙂

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  4. …One thing is for sure, life is one pretty complicating thing that we human still try to understand and we give so much meaning to it and try to explain every and each little part of it, that we forget how simple it is when we look at it with eyes of the children. For me personally, even do life is really painful and sometimes idiotic, it gives me a pleasure to do something different every day, just to prove myself that I’m really one small creative human being, and that my destiny, and that goes for other people too, is to create something unique and useful for the generations yet to come…

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  5. Loved what you said about confidence; “You know one of the best ways you can gain self-confidence and speak up for yourself? If you are strong enough to defend yourself physically. Funny. But true.”
    Personally, this is true! I often ask myself, what are you afraid of when speaking up? When I was really honest with myself, I came to the conclusion that I thought someone would hit me.

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  6. good read, save for “intentions”. they do matter. “intentions” are for ourselves, not others, who cannot experience them and must judge us based upon our actions. our intentions build our character, who we are inside, and therefore how we treat others through our actions. but if we love others the way they want to be loved, the way they believe they should be loved, is this not idol worship? can you be truthful to yourself if you did? if someone truly loves you, they will love you in their own way, as they can; as you also will love them as you can. does not a parent, a spouse, a neighbor, and (yes) a pet love you each in their own way?

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      1. no, i do get it. i just don’t subscribe all that much to behaviorism. actions are not enough and meaningless without intent. is a person virtuous because they do virtuous acts without reason [paraphrasing Aristotle]?

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  7. “habbits not goals” EXACTLY! This is right down my lane with all the books I’ve read! I totally agree with that. Habits rock and adding to them each day to make things a little bit better, easier, etc is so powerful.

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  8. I enjoy your witty and blunt way of writing! I learned from the different quotes and especially related to the one on envy, intentions and goals. Nothing about the process of attaining goals is particularly glamorous. I think we tend to so often spotlight the goals without putting as much emphasis (if not more) on the cost of what we’re after. Thank you for this!

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  9. Awesome post and thoughtful blog. Cynicism isn’t wisdom it is a lazy way to say that you have been burned… a favorite song of mine. Keep it up.

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  10. A very inspiring post. It’s true that actions speak louder than words and the dog that barks never bites is something we all forget. Thank you for sharing this! Please continue to make such motivating and helpful posts.

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    1. Reblogged on randomart.art.blog.

      Children ARE little monsters . If you watch them interact they are sizing each other up like a pack of animals. They can smell the weak, then attack (and take the train set,Barbie doll,etc…only to discard it shortly)
      They just needed to show they could do it . Like a dog peeing on his property.

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  11. Great post my friend! There is so much in here I could talk about. I was married for a decade and my wife divorced me almost two years ago now. Henry Miller said, “The best way to get over a woman is to turn her into literature.” Writing has allowed me to release the best and worse parts of myself. I’m encouraged to know you went eight years writing without making a dime. That means I have six more years or less to go ;)

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  12. I think I say the phrase “What the hell am I talking about” at least 20 times a day. I feel better and better each time I go through the writing process though. Thanks for providing inspiration to keep pressing forward.

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  13. What an insightful post! Most of the truths seem harsh but they make sense. Something I’ve learned is that you can’t expect people to feel about you as you do about them. Just like you can’t expect them to react the way you want them to.
    Hey! In India, we have the phrase “the dog that barks never bites”, too! Although, the truth under which you mentioned this (the morality one) is the one truth I don’t want to accept in the whole list. Elon Musk was bullied in school. Does that mean he was trying to avoid conflict? And I can NOT really think of him as inferior.
    Anyway, a thought-provoking post, sir. I’m gonna share it to everyone I know! Thank you for sharing these lessons with us.

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    1. Elon Musk is inferior in many, many ways to a lot of people. From his inability to build meaningful relationships (especially with women), to (probably) his lack of knowledge about a lot of topics, to a lack of self-awareness, understanding of others, stuff like that. He sacrificed a lot for his vision.


    1. Mark Manson is cool. Kinda. Never been compared to him before, but I do read some of his stuff, and have read his first book.

      I just write my truth, no matter what. And I don’t have much time to sugar coat stuff, and besides, sugar is bad, so…

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  14. Thank you for coming to my blog. We as people need water, air, and food. Other things come later. We will all suffer whether we’re rich or poor. That’s life, but we can make life better by using our minds in a healthy way. Take care now.

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  15. Not always unhappy children raise unhappy children in my experience starting with my daughter raised very happy ones, she was not a happy child because of many reasons some of are my own fault. I worked in a business I would never recommend anyone and had little time for her.

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  16. Interesting ideas! We are all constantly evolving. You are not the same person you were when you were 10 or 20 or even yesterday. That being said, we only have one life to live in this consciousness so we must try and live life to the fullest-and that is a different thing for each of us.

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  17. Thank for writing this, Cristian. It was hard to read, the truth is difficult because we want to believe that we are ok. My truth is this: patience and commitment lead the way. You need both to succeed at anything. Many people lack them. I’m trying to build them.

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  18. C.S. Lewis makes a similar point about the purpose of pain, in “The Problem of Pain”– that “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains.” Sometimes suffering is what it takes to show us what is really worth getting up for each day. And the fact that suffering is guaranteed throughout our entire lives is evidence that we will always need the reminder.

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  19. Well said!!. That is honest and insightful truth. Too many put forth personas of life and they are afraid to show the different depths of their minds. We are made up of multiple levels of emotions. We have a duality to our minds when it comes to darkness and light. We are not one dimension. Yes life is pain, but it is also joy. You write so descriptively well. Thank you for sharing your gift.


  20. Hey Christian! Super interesting post. I totally agree with you, life is pain. I just wrote a blog a couple days ago actually, it included:

    “.. Because the truth is, even if you do renounce your dreams, life will never be easy actually. It will always test you. It will always challenge you. You will always have moments of hurt.

    But if you strive to uncover the mysteries of the world and therein yourself, you will see that there is a reason for our pain. In one form or another we need to learn…. ”

    Keep in touch,

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  21. I don’t have much money. We live very frugally but we get by. BUT we are relatively healthy, happy and live a good life. Sure sometimes things don’t go our way, but if you can learn from the bad things at least something good can come of it. I have my books and writing to keep me interested and busy. It’s about being content with yourself I think.

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  22. Reblogged this on Irene Blackwell and commented:
    I permanently ended a friendship that’s intoxicating and hardly any empathy existed since I was laid off from the same workplace and she managed to get her’s back. The last I saw of her, I couldn’t help noticing the smugness and tried to shrug it off. I felt, no, I knew the only time she wanted to come in contact is when she learns things are getting rough for me through word-of-mouth. After months of not trying to reach out, I became more self-convinced and unfriended her. Of course, she got snippy and retaliated by tagging me in a photo. A photo that was taken before an embarrassing incident. I responded that I didn’t care for the intent on humiliating me. When she responded, claiming didn’t know what I was talking about, I didn’t respond until two messages popped revealing her true colors. I blocked her, and now I’m fully ready to move on.

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  23. Great post.
    It’s good to recognize the good and bad in oneself and everyone because we all have the two, what differs from one person to the other is the degree of either, we should accept the world as it is. Know that there is pain, choose a struggle that’s worth our time and fulfills our goal in the end. Live, by being present, consistent informed and taking inspired action.

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  24. I love your philosophy here. Great morals to live by. We learn them as we grow from our experiences and they will evolve and change with time. We influence each other, and your writing influence and inspired me. Thank you. Keep observing and growing…

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  25. “It does not matter that you tried to do the right thing. Did you do it? That’s all that matters.”
    “A rabbit is not good, it is harmless.”
    I loved your perspective on things that are glorified every day even though there’s nothing heroic about them. There’s not only depth here but also personal anecdotes, which makes your writing very compelling.
    I agree with most of your points ^-^

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