Why So Afraid?


“You are afraid to die, and you’re afraid to live. What a way to exist.” – Neale Donald Walsch

Afraid. To live. To die. To get hurt. To hurt others. Afraid. Of failure. Of success. Of getting stuck somewhere in between. Afraid of doing nothing at all, afraid of overdoing it. Afraid of yourself, afraid of others. Rationalizing. Being practical. Over-intellectualizing. Holding back. Waiting for the right time and place.

Finding excuses. Blaming yourself. Blaming others. Telling yourself that you’ve got enough time.

“If only…”

“When I…”

“What if…”

“It could have been…”

You are afraid. And most times you don’t even realize it. And everyone else is just as afraid as you are. A bit ironic, but it’s true.

Keep that in mind. No one is fearless, no one is perfect, and no one has it better.

We’re all born equal. We all have twenty-four hour days. Some just work harder than others, even though they are afraid too.

This is it. The thing. Some go through life succumbing to fear and pain, on their knees, like penitents, like beggars, like saints who’ve sinned too much, while others go through life with their heads held high, choosing to fight fear every single day.

Now, I ask: would it be a damn shame if you didn’t do what you’ve always wanted to do simply because you were afraid?


17 thoughts on “Why So Afraid?

  1. “Would it be a damn shame if you didn’t do what you’ve always wanted to do simply because you were afraid?”
    It is, you described the person I have become to a tee. Sadly, at this point in my life I have embraced the comfort of despair and idly await the inevitable.

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    • Where’s the sad button when I need it? “Embraced the comfort of despair”?? Please go read my “Breathe the Daily Seasons” (today’s JanBeek post). Each part of the day is a new beginning, a new season. Living in your gloom spells doom!! Get up, breathe fresh air!

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  2. The most helpful mindset for overcoming fear is simply knowing that I don’t want the haunting regret of wondering “What if…” Even if I fail and my posts garner no attention, at least I tried and did the best with the abilities I possess. Don’t be robbed by fear.

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  3. I think what we fear is uncertainty. But if we were somehow to really face (with braveness and love) uncertainty and mere chance, maybe we would not have to “fight” all the time. What we are fighting with all the time is ourselves. I wonder if it is not about fighting fear, thus giving it recognition, but realizing somehow that there is nothing to fear. I am very afraid of death, for example, and I do try to “fight fear” by forcing myself to do things I am afraid of. But, fear always come back. I know one day, when I look “fear” in the eye and realize it is concerned with past and future only; that it is only an expectation that something will go wrong based on ideas of what is good and bad, I will just let it go.


  4. We afraid, they afraid, the point is we’re not alone, there is a counter perspective about ‘support’ in the term of received sosial support vs perceived social support, lot’s of contemporer theory emphasize the important of perceived social support rather than the other one


  5. I think a lot of people forget that there’s a bunch that you can contribute to the world just from your own desk, particularly nowadays. I think a lot of fear comes from the seeming insurmountable odds of actually being identified and listened to. I’m always starting one project or another, but I quickly lose steam when I realize that -yet again – no one is really paying attention.

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