On Happiness

Happy people learn that happiness, like sweat, is a by-product of activity. You can only achieve happiness if you are too busy living your life to notice whether you are happy or not.
Frank Pittman

We all desire comfort and safety. Those who live on a month to month basis wish to have enough money in the bank to never have to worry about the next paycheck again. The lonely wish for someone who’ll cure their loneliness for ever. The broken hearted want their happily ever after. The damaged dream of fairytales, sinners dream of Heaven, and most of us simply dream of life being okay until the end of times.

But here’s the big secret: life is a struggle. One that never ends. The fight for survival is something you cannot escape. Comforts breeds insecurity, unhappiness, and having too much time to think ensures that you eventually fail at life itself.

Being busy, being productive, doing what you love, loving what you do…

All of them cliches, all of them true.

Happiness is not a destination to be found, but a way of travel.

Happiness is not a state of mind, but the by-product of several productive states of mind.

Happiness is to act in accordance to who you feel you should be, not who someone else expects you to be.

Happiness is not to be pursued, but to be attracted.

I know, all of these are not terribly helpful. But, then again, anyone who tells you they’ve created a step-by-step guide to being happy, a secret recipe or formula, are just trying to sell you something.

The moment you wake up in the morning, walk to the mirror and say these words: “I love you.” As silly or uncomfortable as you might feel, stare yourself in the mirror and say the words out loud. Do it for a few days, and eventually these words will make you smile.

And isn’t a smile, a genuine smile, proof of happiness?

Advertisements

8 thoughts on “On Happiness

  1. Great post here, Cristian. I had a meeting at the high school tonight, which was looking more at giving our kids the psychological and motivational edge, rather than looking at specifics. A few of the things they mentioned were smiling, saying three things that went well during the day and associate that with an activity like brushing your teeth to keep it up. I’d heard these before but they also mention an anachronism: PERMAH, which was developed by Martin Seligman. Well worth looking up.
    Best wishes,
    Rowena

    Liked by 2 people

  2. I was going to reblog my first ever post today titled ‘Happiness’ on my site marking its one year anniversary on WordPress. Your take on ‘Happiness’ is truly insightful and looks at happiness from a different perspective. I absolutely love your point through your prism. Well done and thank you for sharing.

    Liked by 2 people

  3. It’s a hard lesson learned. American media has its ways of brainwashing us into thinking things need to be a certain way for us to be happy. Making impossible benchmarks that no one could ever reach, thus making all of us feel like failures. Happiness is something that can only be found in oneself because you control your perspective and can only ever change yourself.

    Liked by 2 people

  4. It doesn’t surprise me that the subject of “Happiness” is one being pursued today. How do you measure happiness? The ability to look at yourself in the mirror and sincerely say, “I love you,” is one way. Seeing happiness as a by-product of activity is another. Living in a state of comfort and safety is another. All of these are external responses to that which we can see. Happiness is an external emotion. I know that what I truly seek most is the JOY that transcends happiness. It is the internal peace that has nothing to do with what I DO or what I SEE. Learning to rest in periods of unknowing, finding contentment in the knowledge that movemet is happening far below (or above) the surface of what I can see… living with an attitude of gratitude… in all circumstances. That’s the JOY that counts (for me). Keep our conversation, Cristian, about “Hope for the Flowers”, and read it again when you’re 80!! When I said, “Sorry,” it was because I am sorry you saw only “wrongness” and I’m sorry I exhausted your patience. Have a JOY-filled day. You do cause contemplation and response in your readers!

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.