“When people say they’re skeptical, or pessimistic, I get it. But let’s face it, you’re gutless. It takes no guts to be a skeptic. It takes no guts to try nothing and say it’s not gonna work. It takes guts to put your ass on the line and believe something’s possible. It takes guts to pursue an answer. It takes guts to fail and step back up and keep pushing” – Tony Robbins
Your mind is designed in such a way to prevent you from getting hurt. In nature, this is a genius mechanism that ensures your survival. But in the our society, we have developed the “someday” mechanism.
Someday we’ll be good enough or brave enough or smart enough or have the time to do this or that.
Someday we’ll become what we’ve always wanted to be.
Someday we’ll write our book or start our business.
And most people wait their entire lives for this someday, which never comes.
Because “someday” doesn’t exist. Like unicorns. Or Santa Claus.
All you have is today.
All you have is the ability to ignore the feeling that assuming certain changes is going to ruin your life.
Realize this deeply and you’ll be free to do anything you want. Don’t, and you’ll spend your whole life making excuses for why you have to settle for less than what you really want.
Five years ago I decided to do something that I truly feared. I wanted to get physically fit. I hated the scrawny kid I saw in the mirror; I weighed 121 pounds at a height of 5 feet and nine inches. I was self-conscious, anxious, and quite depressed. I tried to do some pushups, with an emphasis on tried.
It was awful.
But, I had to act in the presence of fear. I needed guts.
I did some pushups on my knees. I did some more the next day. And the day after that.
Showing up in my living room, doing pushups, staring myself in the mirror, all red and tired and sweaty, were some of the most difficult things I have ever done, but I did them anyway.
After a couple of months I purchased some weights. Then more weights. A few months after that I decided I was ready to go to a proper gym and train there. I spent roughly an hour walking around the building where the gym was at, too scared to walk in. My voice was shaking. I was terrified.
There I was, skinny and fragile me, trying to get in shape, not knowing how to use the machines, or where the damn locker room was…
Without guts, there are no new habits.
Some people think that you either have guts or you don’t. But that’s not true. I found out that courage is like a muscle, and just like any other muscle, you develop it by using it. A little at first, then try a little more, and repeat.
If you want to be brave enough to do what scares you, then it might be a good idea to try these 7 steps:
- Make a list of why you want to do it. In the case of exercising, list all the reasons you can think of why you want to be fit and healthy.
- Write a list of what you have to do. Simple, right? Go to the gym, eat healthy, wake up early, get at least 8 hours of sleep. All that you need to do to get from where you are to where you want to be.
- Put it on the calendar. Yup. It’s not going to be someday. Just choose a day. Doesn’t matter. Write that down. And that’s when you start.
- Tell someone about it. Accountability is a key factor in forming new habits. Tell a friend what you’re planning to do.
- Do it. When the day comes, act. Face your fear. Get up and get out the door. Remember: no guts, no glory.
- Do it again. It’s not over until you win.
- Celebrate it! Call your friend, post it on Facebook, Tweet it.
If you exercise your courage, you will have a long list of healthy new habits.
All it takes is guts. Face your fears.
You’ve got to have the guts to be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your life.
Some have the guts to go after what they want, ignoring the inner voice that tells them that it probably won’t work out, that they’ll get hurt, that it’s best to hide under the bed.
Some have the guts to go after what they want as if their lives depend on it.
And you should too.