“You can start over again! Do not even think about quitting now! It is easy to replay in your mind how things did not work, how much you lost, what you are going through, how angry you are. There is no amount of conversation or magic that is going to wipe the slate clean. You are wasting valuable time and energy that could be used to regain a new normal and start another version of your life. Even though you are hurt and you may be feeling down ~ stop kicking yourself! Face what has happened. Make the decision to start over again.

In life, friendships change…divorces happen…people move on and others die. Money and jobs will come and go. Live long enough and your health and body will change. It goes with the territory of being human. The fact that you are still here gives you an advantage. Do not look back. Look straight ahead!! Decide to use all of your knowledge, skills, experiences and your life lessons from your mistakes, defeats and setbacks, to start over again. Life changes. You may not have the same life as before, but you can still enjoy your life. You have GREATNESS within you!”Les Brown

They say we should always be kind to others, for we all suffer in our own ways. We carry around people we lost, pain, regret, lost opportunities, a dying hope for what will no longer be. All these feelings and emotions, and yet we manage to function. We smile and we talk with others, hiding our pain behind masks.

I often say that the past should be a place of reference, not one of residence.

If you choose to live in the past, thinking about what went wrong, what you could have done better, than you’re just wasting your time. I’m sorry, but it’s true. No amount of guilt, of overthinking, will ever resurrect the past. What is done is gone.

What matters most is what you chose to do from this moment forward. If you choose to keep fighting.

Life happens to all of us. It’s inevitable. We all learn to lose, to fall. But few ever learn to learn from those losses, to fight back, to get back up. That is the magic of life: the ability to get back up and face your fears and go at it again and again and again until the job gets done.

You just can’t beat a guy who never gives up. You can’t.

That’s greatness. That’s what you already have and should be using it to pursue your dreams and aspirations. No matter what.

Whatever it is you decide to do in this life, make sure you don’t settle for less than what you truly desire. Make sure you keep your head high and tell others that you’ve done your best. Give a hundred percent, day in and day out, and the Universe will get out of your way.

It’s that simple. And that complicated. That easy and that difficult.

When those days hit you, when you just don’t want to wake up, when you don’t have the inner strength to get out of bed, when you just want to roll over and die or huddle in a corner and wait for some miracle to happen, those are the days when you have to remind yourself of who you are and what you want to achieve.

What is your passion?

What is your purpose?

What makes you feel most alive?

Why are you here? Why?


  1. I was in tears before I clicked “Read more”. This is much much needed advice, especially at a time like now when the year is coming to an end , the weather is changing and all seems lost. Thanks Cristian

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  2. I finally learned that lesson some years ago. However, I am still learning where I am holding on–not forgiving myself. Self-condemnation for foolish decisions isn’t helping me: I’m just wasting brain energy. I’m beginning to realize that my brain has only so much power for the day and not to waste that “wattage” on thoughts that don’t empower.

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  3. The Stoics tell us to live in the present. Not in a hedonistic, ‘sex, drugs, and rock-and-roll’ kind of way. But in a way of being aware of your limited time on earth. It won’t do to reflect on the past, because it’s time gone. And looking too much into the future, of the time that will come, robs you of the time you have now.

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  4. Thank you for the post! It’s amazing! We all here by meaning. We all have a purpose. We all not an accident. I love that! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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  5. I am a writer. I write musicals. I write books. I write poems and I just finished my tv pilot for a producer. I am no longer living in my past and it feels amazing.

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  6. You will always find light at the end of the tunnel. Do remember if one has fallen in the pit, there is only one way to go and that is UP. It is only you who is capable to change your world. Great post.


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