“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” — Steven Furtick
One of the sad truths of today is that technology consumes us. It’s not just about the time, but how we use that time.
Social media, for instance, provides us with both an escape and a way of searching for a certain kind of validation from others.
We want the approval and admiration of others and we edit our lives to appear better than they really are.
But what happens when we get absorbed by the glitz and glamour of other people’s lives?
You lie to yourself and pretend that you are happier than you really are, and then you see other people doing the same thing but you fail to recognize the lie.
We’re all actors, and in playing this fantasy game we fail to grasp the simple fact that real life is always just outside our windows.
Real life is about being aware of your surroundings, about other people and their needs. Real life is about real people.
Real life is about experience. About genuine experience, the one you only “stumble upon” when you leave your comfort zone.
Real life is about struggles, not selfies. Real life is about getting broken and fixing yourself, not counting the wounds in a pathetic attempt to gather as many likes as possible.
Real life is about building confidence and discipline and patience, not about feeding your ego with other people’s (often misplaced) admiration.
Real life is about staying true to yourself. Be who you want to be, because that’s what you want, not because you want him or her to like you.
Real life is about enjoying the process, not becoming obsessed with the results.
By pretending to be anything other than who we really are we lose so much. It takes a phenomenal amount of mental effort to keep a mask on… And, in the end, undoubtedly, the mask will fall off.
Real life is not about other people and clever ways of manipulating them into fulfilling our needs and desires. Real life is about going out there, into this vast world, and finding out what is it that you really want.
From yourself and from others.
Real life has no like button, no delete button, or any other kind of button, because there’s no remote control.
Don’t like something? Change it.