You Are Your Own Hell

“I think hell is something you carry around with you. Not somewhere you go.”Neil Gaiman

It does not matter what happens to us, but how we interpret and how we react to whatever it is that happens to us.

It is not necessarily our abilities that determine our success, but rather our beliefs about those abilities. How much faith we have, how much courage. How much we love ourselves.

In this hyper-logical world we live in, this game of chess, it’s easy to forget about the importance of having the right kind of mindset. It feels like a race, to own, to have, to pursue, to be busy, busy, busy, but the truth is that our minds can create happiness whenever we want to.

True power lies in the ability to do what you want, when you want, how you want.

True power lies in your ability to control your emotions, your thoughts, your words, your actions.

You can be reactive or proactive.

You can be master or slave.

A victim or a hero.

The choice is up to you.

Heaven and hell. Both reside with you.

This is the battle. The one true battle that you must fight over and over again.

You must be strong and fight this battle at the best of your abilities, because if you don’t know your worth, others will be glad to tell you, but guess how much you’ll be worth according to them?

Not much. Maybe nothing at all.


  1. These words are so through . we have to ability to succeed or fail , we have to believe in ourselves and have faith in God that whatever we do will prosper. What I am conscious of is my thoughts. Once any negative thought comes in I drive it out because I know they are only trying to bring me down. I don’t dwellnon them , I only dwell on the positive thoughts and feelings but then even positive feelings have to be controlled so you don’t make wrong decisions. Once feelings subsides then you make decisions

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  2. So true, and something I now am aware of and believe. I spent much of my life not knowing this truth, and letting others dictate to me what would make me happy. I believed them, and was in misery. They blamed me for my misery, and I blamed myself. But I did not know how much they had influenced me, had convinced me of THEIR truth which was not MY truth. While we are ultimately responsible for choosing our path, we also have to be aware of how easily influenced we are by others. The dynamics of social pressure are real, and strong.

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  3. Interesting. I was just in hell yesterday. Wanted to crawl into a hole and never write another word. I felt destroyed. But I didn’t stay there. I cried, I prayed, I asked for advice, and I made (what I hope is) a wise and productive decision to deal with it my problem. I’m trying to learn not to run away, because when I do, I just seem to run farther into hell. (Of course, I believe in actual heaven and hell, but this idea/metaphor is empowering to me. Thank you.)

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  4. Cristian, I of course agree with your point, and it reminds me of Jean-Paul Sartre, whom said a few things (take them for whatever you make of them, Ha!) – “Hell is other people” and “We are condemned to be free”. But, I think, as you’ve eloquently stated, our freedom lies in our capability of making a commitment to how we respond and think as individuals. Is one to be hell-bent or heaven-bent? The choice is solely ours and ours alone.

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