In Suffering You Will Meet Yourself

“It’s at the borders of pain and suffering that the men are separated from the boys.”Emil Zatopek

Everybody wants to eat, but few are willing to hunt. Everybody’s got a plan, a goal, a dream, and they give up on it as soon as there’s an obstacle, a defeat…

The man who fears losing has already lost. The man who is afraid of getting punched in the face will never live life on his terms.

I used to be the archetypal nice guy. Trying to play nice, because I didn’t want to get hurt. Afraid to ask questions because I was afraid of being told “no.”

The road to hell is paved with good intentions, adverbs, regrets, and all sorts of people who never had the guts to do what they knew in their hearts was right.

Fear is such a debilitating disease.

Life will punch you in the face. Often. It’s just how it is.

You either dust yourself off and try again, or you throw in the towel. But never forget these words: the most heartbreaking thing you’ll experience is wishing that you hadn’t given up.

When you’re too old and it’s over and you can’t do it anymore. When you can’t pursue your dream, when you can’t start that business you’ve always wanted, when you can’t spend more time with the ones you love…

Keep your head high. Always.

I didn’t use to do that. I lost so much because of it. I did not speak my truth because I knew my voice would shake. I was so afraid of showing weakness, that I preferred to hide.

I’d hate staring myself in the mirror, so I avoided doing that. I was afraid of dogs, so I avoided them. Afraid of heights, afraid of getting my heart broken, afraid of people, afraid of being alone, afraid of success and terrified by failure.

I did not want to suffer, and thus I did not know who I was. I was skinny, sickly, strange, angry, and bitter.

It is at the borders of pain and suffering that the men are separated from the boys. It is how we deal with suffering, how we use it as energy to keep going, to achieve great feats, this makes the difference between people.

Walk up to a mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself.

Overcome your fears.

Fight for what you want.

If you lose, you’ll be at peace knowing that you at least tried.

I strenuously believe that courage is built by doing such things. You face your fears, you fail, but you gain self-confidence because you didn’t back down.

Never, ever, ever retreat. Never surrender.

Face it. Whatever it is. Face it. Always face it.

It’s not the fall that breaks you, but your fear of falling.

31 thoughts on “In Suffering You Will Meet Yourself

  1. But don’t beat yourself up if you don’t face your fears the first time – that way you end up feeling even more of a failure. I went to a climbing wall. I’m scared of heights. I got half way to the top then stopped and came down. It was OK. I’d made a start. Next time made it to the top. No sweat. As long as you’re moving in the right direction, it’s fine.

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  2. This is a very profound piece, thank you for sharing! From my experience, I can relate to nearly every word. Fear is debilitating but I’m finding that when I face my fears there is not only an overwhelming sense of accomplishment but also as I continue to do so it seems my self-acceptance is increasing as well.

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  3. This is an absolutely amazing post!!!! And a confident booster for all of us knowing that we should be doing more in life.
    “Fear is such a debilitating disease…. But never forget these words: the most heartbreaking thing you’ll experience is wishing that you hadn’t given up.”
    So profound and needed this morning!!! #NeverGiveUp

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