A lot of our self-help culture is focused on what we should do in order to be happy, fulfilled, financially independent. But it’s worth noting that there are a lot of bad habits that we must quit in order to be successful.
Here’s a short list of bad habits you must quit if you want to live a life you’re proud of.
1. Quit procrastinating.
Some people dream of success while others wake up and work hard at it. Be brave enough to impose the discipline you need to accomplish your dreams. What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow. As a matter of fact, if you tell yourself that you can get it done tomorrow, you’ve already lost.
The secret to getting ahead is simply getting started.
2. Quit blaming others.
Stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have, or for what you feel or don’t feel.
When you blame others for what you’re going through, you cannot assume responsibility for where you are in your life, which translates to being unable to move forward, let go, or evolve.
Stop giving your power away.
It doesn’t matter who’s to blame, it’s your responsibility to make the best out of even the darkest of situations.
3. Quit trying to avoid change.
Break out of your comfort zone. Understand that the only true constant is change. You can either be proactive and go out there and live life on your terms, welcoming change, or you can be reactive, and try to hold on to whatever comfort you have for as long as possible before everything falls apart around you.
4. Quit trying to control everything.
If you try to control everything, and then worry about the things you can’t control, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and misery.
You can only control the way you react to events. You can only control your mind, and you can only control what you do with your time.
5. Quit criticizing yourself.
Be aware of your mental self-talk. If you think you can’t, you won’t even try. We often fail because of negative self-talk. We often think that one failure defines us, that we can never overcome the odds.
Always remember that defeat is never final.
6. Quit criticizing others.
The negativity you bleed out toward others will gradually cripple your own happiness. What you think of others says an awful lot about who you are as a person. You hate most about others what you are afraid could be found inside you as well.
7. Quit running from your problems and fears.
The world is supposed to be there, on your shoulders. You should be brave enough to face your fears, to be the hero of your story, to look adversity in the eye and know that you can withstand any kind of storm life throws your way.
8. Quit wishing.
Some people spend their entire lives trying to live in another time and place. They waste time wishing for something that happened and was lost to them, or they imagine a life that they never pursue.
This world is not big enough for all of us to get what we wish for. That’s why we have to work for what we want.
We need to live more in the moment. Living in the moment requires active, open, intentional awareness on the present. Live in the moment, and do your best to make it so beautiful that you don’t even feel the need to daydream about being somewhere else (or worse, being someone else)
9. Quit trying to be someone you’re not.
A lot of people try to be what they think others want. Such a shame. If you know who you are, what you want, what you like or dislike, and what you’re willing to tolerate, other people will pay your price.
People will hate you for trying too hard to be who they want you to be, but will love you even if you fall short of their own dreams, as long as you are real and brave enough to be yourself.
10. Quit being ungrateful.
It’s not what you have, but what you do with what you have that counts. If you are not grateful for what you have, how can you possibly expect to be happy with more? Why would you be happy with more?
If you are grateful for what you have, you will have more. It’s as simple as that.