Perfection. A word that breaks one’s heart, for those who strive for it are afraid they’re never going to achieve it.
But what does it mean to be perfect? A perfect ten… Physically stunning in such a way that there’s nothing anyone could add or take away to further enhance your beauty.
Some aspire towards this kind of beauty. They spend enormous amounts of money to become perfect.
But beauty lies in the eye of the beholder, doesn’t it?
One man’s dream woman is another man’s “I’ll call you back.”
What some rate as a “10” is another man’s “8 on a good day.”
Personally, I think that if we let ourselves become obsessed with achieving physical perfection, we lose a bit of ourselves. If we think that where our power resides, then we are setting ourselves up for heartbreak.
A friend of mine once told me that only those who lack social intelligence believe that the most beautiful person in a room is by default the most interesting person there. Because they almost never are.
And, yes, I am well aware of the effects beauty has on us, and the fact that we perceive beautiful people as more trustworthy, more competent, and more intelligent.
But… as I said previously, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, and to paraphrase Salvador Dali, we’ll never, ever reach perfection.
If that is so, aren’t those who strive for perfection damned to spend a lifetime feeling powerless in the face of time’s cruel passage?
If you spent years and years wishing to change something about your physical appearance, you develop an “if only” mentality. It becomes a habit. Let me explain.
“If only” are the two saddest words in the English language. It means that you have to postpone your happiness, because there’s something you are lacking. Or rather, something is missing from you. It doesn’t matter what it is, but if you postpone feeling good about yourself until you change that one thing about yourself, then it becomes a habit, and when you do change it, you’ll instantly feel hollow and empty and purposeless until you find something else that needs to be changed.
What if you were to venture into the center of all your fears and insecurities, inside that hidden drawer of your soul, where you have locked away all your “defects,” only to discover there was nothing there to begin with? Only you being afraid of yourself, only you thinking that others care as much about your faults as you do (or are even aware of them). Only you, telling yourself, over and over again, that your flaws somehow define you.
It’s a funny world we live in today. We are desperately seeking to be what we think others want us to be. Guess what? The world will always be telling us that we’re not enough. We’re not smart enough, we’re not pretty enough, we’re not rich enough. If we let these words take root inside our brains and become a guiding voice, we will be forever doomed to go throw life feeling inadequate.
Here’s the harsh truth. About beauty. About money. Status. Intelligence. The world will ask you who you are, and if you do not know the answer to this question, the world will be more than glad to tell you. And you won’t like the answer. And if you internalize this answer, and think that men only get a hard on for those “perfect” Instagram models, and anything less won’t do, then you will be living in hell for the rest of your life.
See, hell is striving for perfection while knowing full well you will never, ever reach it!