January first. Monday. Someday.
What do these three all have in common?
That’s where 99% of our motivation, drive, hopes, and aspirations live. Our plans and resolutions. Our desire to change, to evolve, to strive for greatness, to do what is best for us.
We vacation on Someday Island, we’ll start working out on Monday, and we make these crazy ambitious resolutions on January first.
And the truth is that you tell yourself you’ll start working out on Monday, and you stick to your resolutions until January the 15th. If you’re lucky.
And you know why?
Because you’re still you. And because you’re still lying to yourself. And you’re still clinging to the past.
You are still telling yourself the same bullshit story as to why you’re the way you are, and why you don’t have what you want. You are still telling yourself this fairytale that someone’s going to save you from yourself. Someday.
You are still telling yourself that there’s still plenty of time to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.
And you lie to yourself, and you know you’re lying, and this breaks your heart. And, if you’re doing that, you might as well tell some big lies too.
Do not approach goal setting as wishful thinking, for you never, ever, ever get what you wish for, but what you are willing to work for. What you are willing to sweat for. What you are willing to bleed for.
So tell yourself this: no more lying to yourself. This year or any other year. Don’t find excuses. Be willing to persevere in spite of obstacles. Believe deeply that you can have anything you want if you want it bad enough and are willing to pay the price. That is all.
Be brave enough to say “no” to everything else except for the things that truly matter, the things that push you forward, or the ones that make you happy. Say “no” to comfort, leisure. Say “no” to your constant fear of failure. Say “no” to those who want to diminish your worth by making you feel like you are not good enough. Say “no” to that voice inside your head that keeps telling you that you are not good enough.
Say “no” to the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you’re not where you want to be.
Because if you were truly who you wanted to be, you’d have no need for resolutions, because you’d be a freaking legend, and you’d only want to keep being the freaking legend that you already are.