I don’t know you. I don’t know your name, your age, or your gender. I don’t know where you live, what you do for a living, or whether you prefer to drink coffee or not.
What I do know about you is this: you’ve built your life around an intricate web of routines. There are certain behaviors you do over and over again, without even thinking about them.
As a matter of fact, these routines have become so ingrained into your subconscious, that you’re now calling them destiny.
Every day, you wake up, get out of bed, brush your teeth, get dressed, eat and drink, work, read, watch TV, surf the web, go on social networks.
These habits seem harmless at first, and it’s hard to believe, but they dictate your destiny.
Whether or not you skip breakfast determines your energy levels throughout the day.
Whether or not you exercise daily determines your overall fitness levels.
These patterns of action influence your emotions, your thoughts, and the way you react to any change in your environment.
It’s this repetition that slowly guides you towards certain destinations but not others. Your habits can steer you towards fame, fortune, and success, or they can plunge you into poverty. These habits can carry you to love and happiness, or they can drive you into depression, loneliness, and despair.
How happy you are is the side-effect of your habits. How much money you make, have, and keep is the side-effect of your habits. How healthy you are, how many friends you have, it’s all a result of your habits.
Not your goals, not your desires, but your habits.
And the less you are aware of the importance of habits, the less control you will have over your life. And that’s how you screw up everything. That’s how you find yourself close to falling over the edge.
Your habits are your only weapon in your lifelong war for meaning, happiness, and making the most of your time.
If you want to change your destiny, you just need to change your habits.
It’s that simple.
If you want to change your life, you’ve just got to change your mind about something you do on a daily basis.
Wow I feel like you were directly speaking to me
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In a way… I was.
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Me too ;)
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Very inspiring. Thank you!💫👏🏼
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My pleasure. Thank you for reading.
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So true.
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I enjoyed your post. So much weight exists with our habits. They can either build you up or tear you down. Awareness of this can have a huge impact on your future.
Curious, do you practice any habits as a writer/creator?
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I punch those damn keys every single day, whether I feel like it or not.
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I’ve been building a habit of writing first thing in the morning every weekend day and, now that I’m working from home, every weekday too. Lately, though, that habit has been at war with my desire to go outside. Usually early morning is the only time it isn’t windy here in the spring, so I’ve switched to getting some gardening and exercise time and writing later in the day.
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I wish I knew which habits to change, maybe I should try them all, one by one?
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You could do that.
Or ask yourself where you want to go. What are your goals? And then write down what habits are necessary to achieve those goals. Also, you could read about the habits of those who have already accomplished what you want, and form those same habits.
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Thank you for this, Cristian…
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Reblogged this on Anita Dawes & Jaye Marie ~ Authors.
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I totally agree and spread that very same message in my books. Dzięki for the read!
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Interesting. Routines are difficult to break out of but I think, ironically, this crisis is encouraging people to do so.
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Times of crisis are meant to encourage us to level up.
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That’s very true. For everyone, not just writers. Forget your wants, they’re trivial.
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Yes. To change our destiny we must change our habits. The wonderful thing about this is that we are in control. :)
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The lockdowns provide a great opportunity to change routines and habits!
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Indeed.
We now have the opportunity to assess our habits, where they are leading us, and change according to our goals.
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Yes. 😀 Also (most) people’s daily routines being interrupted and changed sets the momentum for further (self-directed) change. It’s the silver lining of the situation.
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I agree. This is so important. People don’t understand that like 80% of the stuff you do is subconscious. You have to create a habit of making good choices. Make it a normal thing to always choose the best long-term option. And soon enough your life will be amazing.
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How very true, but thank you for reminding us. We should all consider our habits and whether they are helping or hindering our progress.
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Another great post! enjoyed every bit of it.stay blessed
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Thank you so much!
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Great post! This approach is similar to the one in the book The Slight Edge. Small, incremental steps over time are what build our lives and help us achieve (or fail to achieve) our goals.
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This virus has shown me how old habits need to be change. I am now doing things that are new to me, and I am loving it. Great post.
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