You’re not going to like what I have to say, but you can get everything you want out of life if only you pay attention to what most people are doing.
Yup. Most people are highly ineffective.
And, if you can’t see it, it means you’re one of them.
Being like them, that should be enough motivation to get you to take massive action towards accomplishing your goals before it’s too late.
Instead of trying to figure out what to do, focus on what not to do, starting with these seven habits that practically guarantee that you fail by default at life.
1. They waste their time scrolling through social media, watching TV, and Netflix bingeing.
If you think you deserve to watch what your friends are posting on social media as a reward for the hard work you put in at your job, then you, my friend, are ineffective.
If you had a ton of positive things going on in your life — career, business, health, networking, etc — you wouldn’t have time to be obsessed with consuming mind-numbing content.
I don’t even avoid these things on purpose anymore. They’re so far down my list of priorities that they might as well not exist.
And in case you’re wondering why all of these are bad for you, ask yourself this simple question: what should you invest time and energy in? Changing yourself? Or watching other people live their lives?
Not only is it not useful to be obsessed with consuming copious amounts of social media content, but it’s also counterproductive and sucks your energy. The news, so filled up with tragedies and murder and war and stabbings and muggins are going to make you feel like nothing’s worth it, because why do anything if the world is pure chaos and murder and greed?
How could you be highly effective if you waste your time becoming an expert on other people’s lives? Would you even have time to know yourself? To understand yourself? Or those closest to you?
Stop the finger gymnastics on Instagram and focus on yourself instead.
2. They mistake motion for action.
There are two ways to go about a project, whether it’s writing, starting a business, whatever.
- number one is to focus on having the blog perfectly set up and designed, on buying expensive camera equipment, on designing the perfect logo, the most amazing business card. There’s always more to learn, more to study, more courses to enroll in. More ideas to come up with. More friends to talk to on the phone under the pretense of “networking.” Instead of getting stuff done, they’re too busy crafting the perfect Twitter bio that will contain CEO in it.
- number two is to just get it done. Want to write a book? Just punch the damn keys. Want to start a business? Open an e-store and try to find some customers.
99.99% of the time, those who follow the second route win.
Perfectionists are highly ineffective because they never get around to getting stuff done. They tap dance around the truth: they are afraid. And because they are afraid, they never fail often enough to succeed.
3. They have a habit of coming up with excuses.
The highly ineffective person has about a thousand different reasons why something won’t work. They can also tell you exactly why they aren’t succeeding: they’re either too short, or too tall, or they don’t have enough money, or they parents destroyed them mentally by loving them too much.
The highly ineffective person lives in a world of “if only.”
If only I had more money.
If only I knew how to network.
If only I wasn’t chastised for being this or this or that.
If only I was living in a different country. Or century. Or freaking planet.
You either have excuses or results.
And, truth be told, everyone can conjure up a sob story.
Want to hear mine?
My father went bankrupt right before I graduated from high school. I struggled with depression, I had health issues too many to count. I had a bad entourage.
So what, right?
If you don’t care about my sob story more than to give me a pat on the back, do you think others will care about your ten excuses why your business failed?
The world is fair because it’s unfair to all of us.
Those who want to win, will win regardless of opposition, discouragement, or failure.
4. They often vacation on Someday Island too.
Someday I’ll start my blog.
Someday I’ll write my book.
Someday I’ll stop procrastinating and open a business.
Life’s a game of momentum. The snowball effect. Little by little, a little becomes a lot.
Small daily improvements yield phenomenal results.
Stop waiting for someday, because someday is not on the damn calendar.
5. They have the habit of giving up too soon.
Even the ineffective person sometimes gets motivated enough to start doing. Or they feel “inspired.”
But this doesn’t last.
Because it’s too hard, or because it’s taking too long, or because there’s no one there to help them.
They expect overnight success without realizing that you have to work for a long, long time in order to become an overnight success.
Maybe it’s because they have the habit of wasting their time on social media, thus they compare their behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.
The road to success is paved with countless setbacks, obstacles, petty frustrations. The road to success is also a lonely road. No one is going to hold your hand, no one is going to give you want you want.
I am well aware that we live in a world of instant gratification.
6. They just want to “have fun.”
After a long day at work, what do most people do?
Stare at a number of screens until it’s time to fall asleep.
During the weekend, they go out, drink, and party.
What’s wrong with having fun, you ask?
Well, the highly ineffective person uses fun as a way to cope with their inability to handle their lives. It’s a coping mechanism that only prolongs the disease of laziness.
They are slaves to their desires and passions, to their addiction to comfort.
Watching TV from the second you get home until you go to bed every single day is a sign you’re trying to numb yourself enough to make it to the next day.
It’s never the activities in and of themselves, but why you’re doing them.
You can tell me you’re happy and content all you want, but the things you actually do make it obvious whether or not that’s true.
7. They are locked in scarcity-mode.
Ineffective people gossip and brag and act selfish because they think the world’s not big enough for anyone else but themselves.
They are constantly trying to get by in life by doing a bit less work than the next guy, and trying to get paid as much as possible for it.
If you feel that you are being oppressed by your employer, odds are you are being oppressed because you are trying to do as little work as possible, and thus they also want to pay you as little as possible.
If you are single and think there’s something wrong or evil about the other gender, you’re what’s wrong and evil. You are in scarcity-mode. You think that you will never find someone to love you back.
Scarcity becomes, in time, a habit, and no matter what you have, you will lose it because you are afraid of losing it.
To paraphrase Jim Rohn, if someone gives you a million dollars, you best become a millionaire quickly. That way you get to keep the money.
Other side-effects of scarcity are complaining, envy, jealousy, and gossiping.
If you hang around with your friends on a Saturday evening, in a garage, drinking beer and talking trash about all your friends who are not there, you are living in scarcity-mode.
If you think the rich and famous are crooks, and that they built their wealth by taking something from you, then you, my friend, are a prisoner of this scarcity-mentality.
How do you become an effective person?
By deciding that you want to win. It’s as simple as that. Winning is not everything in life, the desire to win is.
If you want to win in business, you will become an effective person. If you want to win at life, in love, in your friendships, then you will become an effective person.
You will stop being reactive and become proactive instead.
You will realize that there’s no time to waste, because everyone else is going to surpass you while you’re sitting on the couch, numbing yourself silly on social media.
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