The One Habit That Is Going to Change Your Life

To be honest, at even a mere subconscious level, you are aware that there are some habits that are going to help you a lot in life.

Feeding your brain with the right type of information.

Feeding your body with healthy and nutritious foods.

Getting enough sleep.

Drinking enough water.

You know that.

But there’s one habit that is mostly ignored by those in the self-help community.

And, truth is, this is the one habit that those who are most obsessed with personal growth tend to overlook.

Odds are that you have a way of understanding the world. You categorize everything you encounter, from events to people. You define and describe your experiences.

In essence, you are making lists: of what is useful, what makes you happy, what is meaningful, what is true, and what is false.

Well… here’s the habit that is going to change your life forever: you must assume that you are wrong.

Not only that, but you must assume that everything’s wrong too. There’s no right or wrong, only wrong and something slightly less wrong.

There’s no universal answer to proper dieting, as there’s no universal answer to happiness.

Most of the harm that’s been done in this world was the “side-effect” of the actions of those who believed they were absolutely right.

If you don’t develop the habit of admitting when you are wrong. when a system or belief no longer serves you, odds are you will end up driving on the wrong side of the road, asking everyone else to get out of your way.

That’s how the world breaks most people. They try to change it, to carry it all on their shoulders, when all they had to do was walk around it.

After all, lots of people knock against walls hoping they’d turn into doors.

Think of all those who live with a broken heart because their soulmate doesn’t love them back, yet they persist because they are absolutely certain of who their soulmate is.

Think of all the people who ruin their lives by believing something someone told them when they were kids.

Think of all the people who tried to burn this world down because they thought they worshiped the one and only god or they had the perfect political system, or they knew for sure that their way of organizing society was perfect.

Assume that you are wrong.

Assume that I am wrong.

Assume that even the most brilliant of people are wrong.

And do this especially when you find yourself seduced by a certain belief system.

When you are certain of something, odds are that you have simply become blind to its drawbacks. You can no longer see all of its shortcomings.

Even if something works for you, this does not mean that it works for someone else.

Life’s never black and white. It’s an awful lot of colors. Like millions and millions of them. And if you try to ignore this, you are going to break your heart over and over again.

Always aspire to learn more.

The more we know, the less certain we become of what we already know.

The more we learn, the more we became aware of how much knowledge we still have to acquire.

That’s the only habit that really changed my life. All the other things like working out, eating healthy foods, or getting enough sleep, are the side-effect of my desire to find out exactly how wrong I was.

That’s the thing.

I was certain that slowly building something was not the way to go. I wanted to go big or go home. I wanted overnight success.

I have changed my mind about happiness, ambitions, money, and success countless times.

I have defined and redefined what it means to be a man about ten or so times in the past three years alone.

Be honest. How often do you admit that you were wrong? How often do you change your mind?

The moment you stop doing that, that’s the moment you stop growing. When you stop questioning the nature of your reality, you begin to die.

You stagnate, because when there’s no willingness to explore but the tip of the iceberg, you cannot see what lies underneath the water.

And I think this is dangerous. We are not aware of how dangerous it is. On a surface level, it seems like we’ve found what we were looking for. We have the exact recipe for success, we have found our purpose in life.

But is it so?

If the most adaptable thrive, what do you think happens to those who are rigid?

If you are not willing to bend, do you think you are going to break?

Change your default setting.

We often live on autopilot. We rarely question our thoughts and actions. We believe everything we feel.

Our ability to think about our thinking is our greatest asset. Do not ruin it by assuming life’s all black and white.

And, please, do yourself a favor and stop thinking of yourself as always driving on the right side of the road, because it’s not so.

Even angels have their own demons.

Develop the habit of asking questions, of always trying to figure out a better way of doing things, of better thinking habits.

Experiment with different mindsets.

See the world through as many different perspectives as possible.

Go ahead, give it a try. Ask yourself this right now: What is one thing that I am certain of that could, in fact, prove to be wrong?


  1. Everyone needs to read this, hear this and understand this… “Most of the harm that’s been done in this world was the “side-effect” of the actions of those who believed they were absolutely right.” Another great entry. Thank you. 👍🏼

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  2. One of your best posts that I have read so far. Keep up the good work. For example I was wrong about you— I assumed that since your writing was so good that you were a native English speaker but apparently you are not.

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  3. I remember a teaching saying, “be open minded, but don’t let your brain fall out…” and with this post I am challenged. I do believe in truth, which means I believe someone can be totally deceived or wrong.

    However, I can receive this advice as encouragement to be flexible in the creative process, because I think we must continue to challenge our habits and abilities. Don’t tell PETA but there are many ways to skin a cat (joke) AND there are many ways to get things done. Keep asking questions and challenging yourself.

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    1. There’s got to be a balance, of course.

      We shouldn’t question everything, and sometimes there are habits that allow us to function on auto-pilot and still get where we should be, but we should also be aware enough to enjoy the journey and course-correct if we need to.

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      1. What I get from this post is that embracing change can help find new areas of growth. Satisfaction with poor performance is often times justifying fear that keeps us stuck in ineffective habits. Retain what works, be willing to change what doesn’t work.

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  4. Another good one, Cristian!
    And more than they, my son, beware; making many books has no end, and studying much is a weariness of the flesh.
    The end of the matter, everything having been heard, fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the entire man.
    For every deed God will bring to judgment-for every hidden thing, whether good or bad.

    I have to wonder if that last line from Ecclesiastes 12:12 applies to the Global Economy of money, power and things on the verge of total collapse, is now brought into Judgment?

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        1. I think that some folks are going to feel like he’s lost part of his integrity, while others are so obsessed with one platform (or hate Spotify) that they won’t want to listen to him anymore.

          Regardless, he’s going to lose a part of his audience.

          I was surprised he sold his podcast. I was even more surprised that Spotify paid that much. After all, without Joe Rogan, there is no podcast.

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          1. I was also surprised. It’s interesting that he knows he’s going to lose people, but he doesn’t seem to care.

            I’ll be interested to see how this affects the rest of the podcast world as well. If it works out like Spotify hopes it could mark the start of a label system for Podcasts similar to the music industry. I don’t know how likely that is, I don’t think current technology favors the label system, but it seems to be what Spotify is shooting for.

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  5. Great post! Have really come to enjoy your writing Cristian – fast becoming one of my favourite bloggers. This struck really a cord given much of my recent reading into developing a growth mindset – I think this idea hits the nail on the head. I believe fixing your beliefs imprisons your mind. Always assume you’re wrong. I think it was Mark Manson who said don’t try to be right, just try to be a little less wrong. Thanks again for all the great advice! Look forward to the next one.

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