I often say that life’s just a matter of perspective.
One man’s ceiling is another man’s floor.
What you think is your 100% could very well be someone else’s 40%.
This is why the first step in growing to become a better version of you is figuring out that there’s always something to improve.
So, if there’s always a way to better ourselves, then here are five powerful mental shifts that can help you on your journey towards personal growth.
1. Every single moment, of every single day, you are learning something.
What most people fail to realize about life is the fact that we never, ever stop learning. Ever.
When you spend hours scrolling on social media, you learn all there is to know about the lives of others.
When you eat healthy, you learn the benefits of a nutritious and well-balanced diet.
When you spend your time avoiding problems, you learn how to become reactive, insecure, and avoidant.
When you are constantly procrastinating, you learn that it’s okay to postpone working on your dreams.
Whatever daily habits you develop, that’s what you teach your brain is normal, and you are constantly rewiring your brain to make it easy to navigate through life.
What I mean by this is that you must be aware of whatever habits you develop, for those habits dictate what kind of person you become.
2. When it stops being hard, you’ve stopped growing.
Most people stop growing because they think that life’s a game of climbing up the hill to reach the top.
Too often, people chase this illusion of “having arrived.” They never realize that their journey towards the destination was, in fact, the destination all along.
The struggle is what makes us grow, not the victory.
As a basic rule of thumb: the moment the path becomes easy, that’s when everyone else starts to surpass you.
Growth can only occur in a place of discomfort, so you need to constantly feel like you’re struggling to develop new habits.
3. There will never be a moment when you’ll want to do it.
What people fail to realize about discipline is that it sucks for everyone.
It’s painful. And we’d much rather do nothing, but we must, because we hold ourselves accountable.
The same way as growth can only occur outside your comfort zone, there’s never a moment when you will feel comfortable outside your comfort zone…
Kind of makes sense, right?
What you will realize is this, that this mental pain you’re feeling is necessary in order to grow.
You will be able to smile even though all your want, at least on an emotional level, is to give up.
And your mind will keep giving you reasons to give up, to return to your comfort zone, and you will keep giving it reasons to keep going.
4. The things you most need to change about yourself are the ones that you dislike about others.
We dislike in others what we secretly fear to be our worst faults. Of course, most people never develop the self-awareness required to realize this.
If you want to figure out what it is that you need to change about yourself, think of what it is that you dislike most in others.
Odds are, if you hate it when someone’s lazy, you secretly know you’re not as productive as you should be.
If you didn’t have the same negative trait, it wouldn’t bother you, because you wouldn’t even pay much attention to it.
Consider these moments where other people trigger you as spotlights shining on your most insecure traits and habits. The key, however, is to be honest with yourself and do whatever to outgrow the person you are right now.
5. Treat personal growth as running a marathon… as a series of sprints.
They say patience is a virtue.
I say that we must be patiently impatient.
I say that we should try to do our very best, to be so seduced by the idea of bettering ourselves, that we must work like crazy, rest, work like crazy again, rest, and do this over and over again for a long period of time.
This is going to be exhausting, true, but for a reason: you have no time for self-doubt.
When I first started working out, I’d go to the gym every single day. I’d be too exhausted to look in the mirror, to see if something had changed about my physique or not. I’d be in pain most of the time, or too tired, to even think about the progress I was making.
All I could think about was putting one foot in front of the other.
Exhausting yourself like that, treating the game of progress as a series of sprints, helps you develop insane levels of focus and commitment.
The most important thing about personal growth is that it all starts with your mindset.
If you want to grow into a better person, you need to change your inner game.
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