Do you vacation on Someday Isle?
What dream or goal are you fantasizing about that you’re not actively working toward today? That you’ve postponed until tomorrow, or next Monday, or when you’ll feel like it?
Are you waiting for a bit of luck? For someone to hold your hand? To do your push-ups for you?
Most people exist in a mindset that tells them that becoming someone they’re proud of is a matter of the stars aligning in just the right way, of some mystical event taking place someday.
The opposite is true.
The world changes its opinion of you the day after you do. You get what you want in life by first becoming the kind of person who has what you want.
It’s as simple as that. But it’s not easy.
Accept Where You’re at in Life
It’s a bit paradoxical, I know, but the most important step in becoming someone you’re proud of is accepting who you are and where you are at in life.
You can never run from who you are, and the more you try to change what you hate about yourself, the more difficult it becomes to actually change.
The trick, however, is to accept who you are. Take a good look in the mirror. Once you’ve accepted who you are, you are free to change. It’s easier to change an internal aspect if you do so from a place of kindness and acceptance.
Stop Vacationing on Someday Isle
Though it doesn’t seem like it, this is a limiting belief. Procrastination is a side effect of fear.
When you talk about what you’re going to do, who you want to be, you are enforcing the reality of not having what you want.
You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.
The two most powerful words in the Universe are “I am,” for everything you place after them becomes your reality.
But what about “I will be?”
What you place after those words becomes everything you’re not, everything you’re afraid to become.
The future, no matter how hard we try to populate it with visions of success, is often a place of fear and doubt. The more we live in the future, the more fearful we become of ever reaching it.
Don’t try to be, simply be. Do what needs to be done today, not tomorrow. Do not overwhelm your future with all that you hope to ever become or achieve.
Take Care of Yourself
The self-help basics have become a set of cliches that we make us want to roll our eyes, but the thing about cliches is that they are true. So, so true.
Drink your water. Sleep your eight hours every night. Eat healthy, nutritious foods. Go for a run, for a walk, spend an hour at the gym. Meditate. Listen to some music. Read a book.
Recently I have discovered just how important it is to get my eight hours of sleep. I usually write my posts early in the morning, as soon as I wake up. But if I get less than 8 hours of sleep, I have trouble concentrating. I literally can’t focus to get any writing done, and I just find myself walking around my living room or on the couch, doing some finger gymnastics while scrolling through Instagram.
Taking care of your self, taking care of the most basic of needs, is incredibly important. Listen to your body, listen to what your mind tells you it needs, and you will become much more productive and motivated.
Stop Waiting to Become Fearless
Someone once told me that I am brave, even though I don’t seem to be. Truth is, I’m always afraid.
I do it anyways.
To be fearless means to be dumb. When we do the things that matter, when we take the risks involved in becoming who we want to be, there is always going to be a healthy dose of fear involved.
Being brave means to be afraid but do it anyway.
An abundance of fear and worry is not a sign that you shouldn’t do it, it’s a sign that you are wasting a lot of time thinking about doing it.
Let go of your desire to be fearless, feel the fear, accept it, and do the thing you’re most afraid to do.
Visualize the Journey, Not the Destination
What I often hate about the so-called law of attraction is that people misunderstand it. They think that all they have to do is sit on their couch, think about a having a million dollars, drink a beer, and a briefcase filled with money will somehow materialize on their coffee table.
Daydreaming about having what you want in your life, or about who you want to be, is only going to break your heart.
I found that out the hard way.
The only thing that works is you visualizing the journey, it’s you visualizing all the steps that you need to take to reach your destination.
Don’t imagine getting the reward, imagine the struggle, the pain, the price you have to pay in order to become someone you’re proud of.
Have Some Guts
Pessimism is a disease of the guts.
It takes no guts to be cynical about trying anything in life. It takes no guts to say that something won’t work without even trying.
Let’s face it, if you’re a pessimist, it’s not because you somehow see the world for what it is. You’re gutless. That’s all.
Stop Waiting Around for Motivation
Motivation is not the cause of action, it’s quite the opposite.
The more you act, the more motivated you are to act. It’s a game of building momentum, of becoming an unstoppable force.
People who are extremely productive are so because they’ve forced themselves to take action until taking action became a habit.
Stop waiting around for motivation, because it’s a surefire way to becoming mentally lazy.
Bonus Point: Never, Ever, Ever, Give Up
In the words of e.e. cummings,
“To be nobody but
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”
If you want to become someone you’re proud of you have to promise yourself to never give up. You will have to fight this battle all your life.