“The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves.”William Shakespeare
Everyone wants the beach body, but no one wants to lift heavy weights.
Everyone wants to publish a book, but no one wants to write four hours every day.
Everyone wants to be a millionaire, but no one wants to put in the long, strenuous work required to build a second, third, and fourth income stream.
Everyone wants to be a business owner, but no one wants to assume the responsibility of being in charge.
The thing is that we all want to live exceptional lives. We all want to reach the top of the mountains and gaze contemplatively at the world slowly fading beneath the horizon.
Even if you don’t think you do, deep down, you do. You want to be happy, you want to be comfortable, you want your efforts to be recognized by as many people as possible.
Yet, even though we all want to go to heaven, few of us are willing to go through hell to reach it.
And that’s why most people live boring lives riddled with countless daily frustrations that break their hearts.
An Extraordinary Life Requires That You Go the Extra Mile
This means that you need to be willing to do what most aren’t. It means that you have to make choices, and at times, sacrifices. It means you have to lose friends and alienate the people who don’t have your best interests at heart, even though it hurts you. It means that you have to delay gratification. It means you have to build a system, a group of people who support your ambitions. It means giving up on the daily struggle to focus on the most difficult problem that you can solve.
You won’t ever be able to go the extra mile if you stop to throw rocks at every dog that barks at you.
Think of that whenever you feel inclined to feel jealousy for what the successful are able to do. You only get to see their highlight reel, when behind the scenes there’s this machine of effort and work and time that was put into becoming an overnight success.
That’s the part that people don’t fall in love with. They are not willing to pay the admission price to heaven, which is always having to walk that extra mile through hell.
“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.”Carl Jung
This means that while other people are out there buying things they don’t need, with money they don’t have, to impress people they don’t even like, you’re going to save and invest your money.
That means that while other people are at the club, you will probably still be at your desk, working.
That means that while other people are on their couch, Netflix and chilling their lives away, you’re busy networking.
If you look at how someone invests their time, energy, and money, you will see where their priorities are.
If you really want to live an extraordinary life, it means that you’re going to have to do the uncomfortable things that other people are not willing to do. It means that you are going to have to step outside your comfort zone on a daily basis, it means you will have to leap and work on building your wings on the way down.
It means you’re going to have to be mentally and emotionally resilient. It means you’re going to have to do a lot of work to become self-aware. It means that you won’t allow yourself the privilege of coming up with any excuses.
The only metric that matters in life is your outcomes. Not your intentions. Not your excuses. Not your effort.
This is what breaks most people. The fact that you might have to give 110% because by going all in you will still fail.
While other people spend the rest of their lives sitting around complaining that no one’s knocking at their front door to tell them that their dreams are going to come true in a couple of weeks, while other people are out every weekend, while other people are busy blaming everyone but themselves, you will be busy paying the price of admission to the life you’ve always wanted.
Because you know that only by doing what they would not are you able to live as they cannot.