If only a dollar would have magically been transferred to my bank account every time I was my own worst critic…
The thing is, life could be so much better for many of us, if only we’d get rid of certain limiting beliefs, negative thinking habits, and an obsession for listening to the advice of a risk-averse and scared brain.
Negative thinking patterns have a way of monopolizing our words and actions. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these defective habits and replace them with empowering affirmations.
If a thought does not serve you, it has to be replaced.
Let’s take a look at the 7 most destructive mindsets that affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us.
1. If only.
“Don’t waste your time in anger, regrets, worries, and grudges. Life is too short to be unhappy.”
― Roy T. Bennett
These are the two saddest words in the English language. There’s this irreversible melancholy attached to these words.
If only I would have known then what I know now.
If only I could have worked harder.
The problem is that the past is gone, so there’s no reason to spend time there. Your life is not an archeological dig, but rather an architectural build.
You have to stop thinking about creative ways in which your past could have been better and actively do your best to create a future you’ll be proud of.
2. I wish I were like ____
“If you become obsessed with someone else, you lose yourself.”
― J.R. Rim
Wishing to be someone else is a waste of who you are. Also, it’s never a good idea to wish to be someone else based on the way you perceive them.
After all, we get but a glimpse of everyone else’s highlight reels, while we are aware of our behind the scenes.
Everyone has to pay a certain price for what they become. Everyone.
And, maybe, just maybe, you’re not someone you’re proud of because you’re too busy wishing to be someone else.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop sabotaging your happiness that way. Focus on becoming better than you were yesterday.