Rock bottom is never the end. It’s only the beginning.
“When this ultimate crisis comes… when there is no way out — that is the very moment when we explode from within and the totally other emerges: the sudden surfacing of a strength, a security of unknown origin, welling up from beyond reason, rational expectation, and hope.”Émile Durkheim
I remember watching one of Jim Rohn’s speeches. He was sharing with the audience the story of being 25, a college graduate, freshly married, and not being able to afford to pay the girl scouts who knocked at his door to sell him cookies.
He had no money whatsoever. He had to lie to them that he had previously purchased cookies from other girl scouts.
That was rock-bottom. That was the dark night of the soul trying to devour his hopes and dreams. He could either accept his insignificance in a seemingly indifferent universe or shout against the dying of the light.
What do you think he did?
Truth be told, men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than they do to get what they want.
Once you get sick of your own bullshit, once you get so uncomfortable with what you have, who you are, then it’s the time to change. To become someone else. To grow, to expand…
We need to hit rock bottom before we rebuild ourselves because the act of changing one’s life, the backbreaking work of building the habits required to reach new levels, all of that is quite painful.
“To progress again, man must remake himself. And he cannot remake himself without suffering. For he is both the marble and the sculptor. In order to uncover his true visage he must shatter his own substance with heavy blows of his hammer.”Alexis Carrel
Rock bottom is the foundation upon which we build our future successes because it is only by reaching the absolute worst that we can handle that another fear takes hold of us: the fear of going through what we never wish to happen again.
When you decide you truly do not ever want to feel a certain way again, you set out to rebuild yourself, no matter the costs. What should happen has to happen. It’s do or die.
In that moment, it does not matter who’s to blame for where we are in life. You’re no longer thinking about who did what and how life’s unfair. In that moment you are driven by the desire to never feel that way again.
We reach rock bottom when our bad habits and addictions spiral out of control when we are no longer able to run away from who we are when we can no longer block out the sun with one finger. Rock bottom is when we can finally see our true selves in the mirror.
When we can no longer lie to ourselves, that’s when the truth becomes unbearable.
When we reach our breaking point, we assume responsibility for our lives. We realize it was us all along: both the sculptor and the marble. We are no longer afraid of change, because the other constant, the pain of staying the same, has finally become unbearable.
The pain and struggle of changing yourself don’t suddenly become an appealing option. No. The other constant has become impossible to cope with anymore.
We cannot find a moment of comfort. That’s what rock-bottom feels like. I remember rock bottom for the fact that I felt anxious just sitting on the couch, watching a movie by myself.
I had food, I had enough money, yet I felt like I had to do something, anything, to rebuild myself.
Most people do not change their lives until staying the samebecomes the most painful option. This means that they do not actually embrace the struggle of forging a new self until they have no other choice.
When it’s do or die, the vast majority of people tend to do.