This is How You Conquer The World

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“It seems to me that if you or I must choose between two courses of thought or action, we should remember our dying and try so to live that our death brings no pleasure to the world.” 

John Steinbeck

We are born soft. Not weak, but with a certain sweetness deep inside our souls. As kids, we feel invincible in our desire to discover the world, to conquer it, to become who we want to be.

Nothing seems impossible. Nothing is out of reach.

But then we grow up and most often than not, we grow weary of others. We try to be like them, we want them to like us…

The world throws a bunch of rules on us and expects us to comply. There are a lot of lies, a lot of unanswered questions, a lot of bullshit. There’s a lot of pain, a lot of suffering, a lot of things to get done. We get lost in a multitude of daily tasks instead of admiring the vastness of life.

We sacrifice so much of who we are for others that at a certain point it feels as if hell is, indeed, comprised of other people.

They are the source of our unhappiness. The boss who doesn’t appreciate you, the people who don’t respect you, the parents who don’t understand you, those who didn’t love you back.

We are interconnected, there’s no denying it, but other people aren’t hell…we just think we need them.

We treat others the way you’d treat an object. We want them…we want them to do something for us, to offer us something. We expect them to save us from ourselves. To give us love and attention and admiration and…

And we suffer.

Yes. We suffer. We feel hopeless at times. Why can’t they see that we’ve sacrificed so much for them?

But the truth is that others don’t have to do anything for you.

So, is there any way out of this labyrinth of suffering?

Yes, but you might not like the answer.

Be better.

Be better than all those who failed to see your worth. Love them anyway. Help them anyway.

Not because you want a reward from it, but because you are that kind of person.

What you do for others ultimately determines your legacy. What lives on long after your bones have turned to dust.

Be better than them, because no one said you can’t be.

It might seem as an almost impossible task, especially if you’ve been hurt and disappointed in your life, but, trust me, it’s worth it.

When I first started writing…I dreamed of fame and glory and awards and money and all the other crazy stuff teenagers dream about. I wanted to be a rock star of the written word.

But then, as years passed and no one read my stuff, I just wrote for one person. Just one… There’s not much fame or glory in that, right? And since I wasn’t getting paid, no money at all. But I saw that my words made that person smile. And think. And wonder about life and love and everything in between.

So I wrote even more.

I wasn’t expecting anything from it. And, believe me, my life was far from perfect. Twenty something, broke, lots of health issues. No friends…

I felt depressed. Alone. Angry sometimes.

But I was making one person smile.

We so often underestimate this, right? Making one person smile…

We want to conquer the world, to reach the top of the mountain, to write the greatest novel ever written, to touch people’s hearts.

What we fail to understand sometimes is that we reach the top of the mountain one step at a time, we write that novel just one word at a time, we touch people’s lives one smile at a time.

And this is how you conquer the world.


  1. Lately, I’ve been thinking of quitting. I’m unemployed, I’m barely making much in writing, about to go homeless, maybe lose my kid. The days seem like hell lately. I’m not sure if anyone reads my writings. There are a few and I’m blessed to have them. They are the ones that keep me going. I just hope that next month, I would still have a home to write in and a daughter to take care of. My condition right now is depressing and I’m just glad that I read this. Thank you.

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    1. Life is pain. Now, it all comes down to the kind of pain you want in your life.

      You either suffer in order to grow and overcome adversity, or you suffer because you do not want to overcome adversity.

      It is what it is. We all have to go through this.

      I remember the feeling, the hunger, the depression, and the frustration of not having enough money. I remmver the fear of being homeless, and I can understand.

      Whatever you do, just keep going. Keep fighting, no matter what.

      Massive action, that’s the trick. To almost anything.

      We either find a way or make one, but we must not give up.

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  2. I think your advice is what we all need to keep in mind. We will go through struggles and lots of pain, but the key is to keep on going even when we do feel like we can’t go on. Never quit. Never quit. Never quit. Hold on and dig in, and keep going despite it all.

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  3. Great read! A very similar experience for me. Recently deciding that I’m the person I should be doing things for was the catalyst to starting my blog a few weeks ago.

    Would I like to grow an audience and through their recognition gain a sense of achievement and confirmation that what I am doing is right, well duh. However, that’s a possible benefit obtained through actions intended for my real goal, making my own audience of one smile.

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  4. Great read. Thought provoking and life challenging. As a Christian, I try to live by Jesus’ words summarized into “Love God. Love people” (My summary and paraphrase). We complicate our lives with stuff and miss the true value of life. If we make a few people’s life better or bearable then our legacy is intertwined in their bettered life. Be blessed Cristian, I enjoy your stuff. I will chew on this blog today.

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