Understanding Worship

One day, the French philosopher Denis Diderot came into possession of a beautiful scarlet dressing gown. He spent a long and silent time admiring its splendor.

And the more he analyzed the fabric, the more he understood that all his other possessions paled in comparison to this new dressing gown. This feeling became so uncomfortable that Diderot soon replaced all his furniture with more expensive options. He bought a new golden clock, a bronze sculpture, a console table, and more art pieces.

Crippled by debt, Diderot understood that he had forfeited his soul to an object of worship he couldn’t properly understand, “I was the absolute master of my old robe. I have become the slave of the new one.”

While this story may seem ridiculous, we often find ourselves worshiping whatever feeds our ego.

What Do You Worship?

Denis Didero’s gown

“In the day-to day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshiping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship.” 

David Foster Wallace

In his famous commencement speech given at Kenyon College in 2005, David Foster Wallace shared with us a few simple, yet valuable insights that could very well form the foundation of someone’s daily philosophy on life.

Near the end of his speech, however, Wallace makes his most daring claim: we all worship. He talks about money, power, beauty, and intellect as false idols worshiped by our unconscious collective obsession with making sense of what we don’t understand.

In a way, we are all inclined to worship what we can’t quite define.

We don’t understand why someone’s beautiful, or why someone’s amassed incredible wealth. We use the word “gifted” to describe someone whose talent or intelligence far surpasses our own.

Who offered them this gift and why?

Worshiping is our way of trying to find order in an inherently chaotic universe.

Belief Is Our Foundation

One of the biggest reasons why we worship things is that we live in a world we don’t fully understand. It’s complex and strange and, as a result, we all feel alone and afraid. That said, in order to survive, we need to be able to come up with a bunch of rules or systems.

But underneath it all, our foundation, our framework, it’s all based on some sort of belief. Without faith, there’s no hope. Without hope, we become helpless in a mostly indifferent universe, a speck of dust in a cold and seemingly infinite universe.

Even people who don’t talk about their object of worship do worship something, and we can deduce that from their the way the act in their day-to-day lives.

The word compulsive often plays a part, whether it’s buying, eating, or working out. We give in to our object of worship without question, mindlessly pursuing “more, better, faster.”

The truth is that none of us would be able to survive for very long if we didn’t worship anything.

We Are Here to Understand the Universe

It’s long been my belief that we are the part of the universe trying to understand itself. We are a bit of stardust trying to understand why things are the way they are.

Questions and answers, the stories of why the world is what it is, all of them make up the human mind. We determine what makes sense and what doesn’t because we are willing to ask questions.

The problem, however, is that the more questions we answer, the more questions we seem to come up with. There’s no end to this, and we often give up on trying to understand, and we just want to operate in a less strenuous mental mode.

Thus, worshiping.

People begin to worship something the moment they stop asking questions about it. Religion has always tried to offer the ultimate answer, and our quest to define the universe has lead us towards a similar path.

It seems we’re quite incapable of accepting that we just don’t know, and that it doesn’t seem to matter.

The Object of Worship Always Demands a Sacrifice

“If you worship money and things, if they are where you tap real meaning in life, then you will never have enough, never feel you have enough. It’s the truth. Worship your body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly. And when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally grieve you. […] Worship power — you will feel weak and afraid, and you will need ever more power over others to keep the fear at bay. Worship your intellect, being seen as smart — you will end up feeling stupid, a fraud, always on the verge of being found out. And so on.”

David Foster Wallace

Worship has always been associated with sacrifice. If we’re not willing to venture into the darkness to find the answers to our questions, the price we must pay for the “bliss” of ignorance is always substantial.

What we don’t understand consumes our lives. What we worship makes us feel unworthy.

The hunger we feel for the object we worship is a way to avoid answering the most difficult of all questions,

Why Do You Worship It?

Why is money important to you? Why is it important to be beautiful? Why not worship something else?

My girlfriend believes beauty to be important. She never feels beautiful. She think about it too much. I, on the other hand, worship my intellect. I am always on the quest to know more about the world around me. It’s quite addictive.

She wants plastic surgery, I want to read more books.

Which one is more worthy of being worshiped? Both lead to different kinds of suffering, and this is the one aspect of life we often tend to avoid: no matter what path we choose to take, we must suffer.

The trick is to identify what it is that you worship. If you turn the unconscious worship into a conscious decision, it becomes far less important. You might even laugh at yourself a bit.

The side-effects begin to subside.

Perhaps we are not here to understand the universe, but rather to experience it. This isn’t ignorance, this is the beginning of wisdom.

Socrates, probably the wisest man to have ever lived, was proud in admitting that he knew nothing.

Perhaps some of life’s mysteries can’t be unraveled. Some questions, most probably, can’t be answered.

We are here because we are here, and it doesn’t matter why.

We are here to live our lives well, not to worship what is always running away from us.

Fame, glory, money, physical beauty, all of them demand that we sacrifice our time, our mental health, and our energy.

But to experience life, to witness the universe in all its magnificent glory, to accept that you are a speck of dust in a seemingly infinity of stardust and darkness, makes life a lot more manageable.


  1. Cristain,
    While I agree with most of what you have said, I am not sure your term “worship” applies to everybody. Some of us are sometimes envious of something or someone, but that does not mean we worship anything. I like you sentence “We are here because we are here, and it does not matter why.”. Most people have difficulty accepting what is, but if you do, life becomes that much easier. While humans are inclined to want to know the answer to every question, some things are just plain unknown, and one should just accept that. Most of us also regularly ask the question ” Why me”. The answer is “Why not me”. Balance the two out and it just does not matter. Accepting what is makes life far more enjoyable.
    Thanks again for making us all think.
    Regards, Phil

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    1. I believe it’s hard to find people who not worship at all.

      And, yes, why not is my favorite question to ask. We seldom find ourselves the “victims” of fate and ask why, and the answer is simple: Why not.

      Life is meant to be experienced, not just understood, and we often fail to experience life by trying to explain what can only be experienced.


  2. I will spare you my Christian reflection, (not a Cristian reflection, as it were) but do agree that everyone worships at the altar of something. Where your heart is, there your treasure lies. Is your idol not your priority? For many, it is work. For young people, it’s influencers. Tell me how to vote, how to do my eyebrows, what vaccines you want me to get, what hairs on my body to wax. For nearly every gold-chain-wearing rapper making it rain Benjamins, it’s clearly money or validation that he matters, to the point of self-worship. Kanye makes a perfect case for that, while alleging he loves the Lord. He is his Lord. My thoughts also go to songs I danced to at the clubs 30 years ago, including NIN, which sang, “God Money, I’ll do anything for you. God Money, just tell me what you want me to.” It literally says, “Bow down before the one you serve.” If that’s not worship, I don’t know what is.

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