They say that the harder the struggle, the more glorious the triumph.
What they don’t say is that you’ll want to quit. Many, many times. You will wish it were easier. You will feel alone with your struggle. You will want to abandon everything and try something else. You’ll spend sleepless nights, empty mornings, and there won’t be much fun on Weekends. Continue reading
Not long ago people used to think that it just wasn’t physically possible for a man to run a mile in under four minutes. Of course, Roger Bannister proved them wrong in 1954. Nowadays, to run a mile in under four minutes is not that great of an accomplishment.
I once wrote that there isn’t a single person on this world who, when faced with the impossible, can’t recognize it, but at the same time, there isn’t a single person on this planet who truly accepts it.
But the way we react to the impossible ultimately depends on how much we want to conquer it. We might accept the challenge or we might give up without a fight. You see, when we feel we don’t have enough time to complete a certain task, we tell ourselves it’s impossible. If something hasn’t been done before, it’s impossible. We’ve got a million rules and laws that tell us how this world works. And we label what we don’t understand as being “impossible.”
It just can’t be done.
Yet. Continue reading
“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things that are left by those who hustle.”
I’m terribly sorry, but there’s no substitute for hard work. No shortcuts, no step-by-step guide. No secret routine, no magic potion, nothing of the sorts.
It doesn’t matter if you like or not this arrangement, because this is law; one that applies to everything you do: your work, your passions, your body, your relationships, your beliefs, your virtues.
Life is war. Continue reading
The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling. – David Foster Wallace
Written by someone who ended up hanging himself, I think he knew what he was talking about.
Deciding to end one’s life needs quite a lot of contemplating on the subject. And, truth of the matter, we could debate the accuracy of such a description and all aspects of depression and suicide until the end of time, without arriving at a certain conclusion.
Maybe it’s got to do with emotional resilience. Maybe it’s got to do with neurological damage, with hormones and stuff. Continue reading
“You can’t hit a target you cannot see and you cannot see a target you do not have.” – Zig Ziglar
When I thought about writing this post, I was convinced I should write about the reticular activating system – the part in your brain responsible for you noticing the same piece of clothing on just about everyone right after you buy it.
But I decided it was best to simply state the obvious: when you want something, truly want it, you’ll begin to notice all the little elements that can help you get it. The steps you have to take to achieve your goals. Continue reading
“Whether you succeed or not is irrelevant, there is no such thing. Making your unknown known is the important thing– and keeping the unknown always beyond you.” – Georgia O’Keefe
Why do I keep writing? Why do successful people keep at it? Why do billionaires don’t retire on tropical islands? Why doesn’t it all end when your dream comes true? Why doesn’t it come a time when there’s nothing left to wish for?
Because, simply put, it’s all a long, long journey. One word at a time, one step at a time, one little goal at a time. It’s all about becoming, not obtaining. Continue reading
To most of us this simple word means much more than just the muscle that keeps us alive. It defines our ability to feel, to love, to care, to suffer deeply, to evolve, to fight on… it is the source of all our power, our greatest strength and our greatest weakness.
To me the word implies all that is good and bad and wonderful and frightening in a human being. It’s the essence of who we are, the inexorable truth of the human condition. Found in the center of what we call one’s soul, the heart is the passion we are capable of mustering, is the strength that we are capable of summoning, the ability to love… Continue reading