Once or twice in your life you find yourself at the edge of everything you ever believed, felt, or trusted. It’s such a terrifying position to be in. Fear, guilt, and doubt cast a dark shadow on your freedom, and it does seem there’s nothing to do.
Of course, the irony is that you can’t spend too much time in this position without understanding some (or most) of the things that need to be understood. Continue reading
People always get what they want. But there is a price for everything. Failures are either those who do not know what they want or are not prepared to pay the price asked them. The price varies from individual to individual. Some get things at bargain-sale prices, others only at famine prices. But it is no use grumbling. Whatever price you are asked, you must pay. – W.H. Auden
Life’s simple. We humans tend to make it seem like such a complicated process.
We want what we want, and we must fight to get it.
That is all.
You want something? Continue reading
“How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?” – Epictetus
One of the sad truths of life is that we often think of ourselves as nouns. Finished products. We try, we fail, and it means we’ll never be able to do it.
We get our hearts broken, and we decide we’ll be forever alone. No one will ever love us. We should just buy some cats and dogs…
Ever thought about the fact that you are born useless? A lump of flesh? You can’t even walk, can’t feed yourself. You’d be dead within a few hours, if left out all by yourself. That’s if you’re somehow lucky enough to even survive that long.
Remember how it felt to learn to walk? To talk? Of course not. But you did learn to do those things, and became quite good. Continue reading
“You are afraid to die, and you’re afraid to live. What a way to exist.” – Neale Donald Walsch
Afraid. To live. To die. To get hurt. To hurt others. Afraid. Of failure. Of success. Of getting stuck somewhere in between. Afraid of doing nothing at all, afraid of overdoing it. Afraid of yourself, afraid of others. Rationalizing. Being practical. Over-intellectualizing. Holding back. Waiting for the right time and place.
Finding excuses. Blaming yourself. Blaming others. Telling yourself that you’ve got enough time.
“It could have been…” Continue reading
Me, some 20 years ago.
Ever been told by someone else to stick to one thing or another? Ever been told that doing something is just not you?
Ever been told that “you’ve changed?” Did you notice that it usually had to do with changing something about yourself in a way that others could no longer understand? Or predict? Or influence?
Ever felt trapped by other people’s opinion of you? Ever felt misunderstood? As if what you knew you were would dissipate into the surrounding environment?
Yeah, I’ve been there.
But how do you go about it? How do you go about being you while still living up to other people’s expectations?
Do you want everyone to believe in you even though you don’t believe in yourself? Do you want people to support you even though you haven’t done anything to earn that support?
Do you think the world doesn’t notice you for who you are? Do you think the world cares about the way you talk about your dreams and goals? Do you think everyone else doesn’t see you procrastinating instead of being dedicated to your dreams?
Sure, you can whine and moan about it and get some fake sympathy from fake friends who’ll laugh at you behind your back.
But… Continue reading