“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.” – Leonardo daVinci
There are two kinds of people in this world: those who do things when they feel like doing them, and those who do things until they feel like doing them. The first kind, they let their emotions rule them, they do and say what they feel, when they feel. The second kind, they rely on self-discipline, rely on principles, rules, and the conviction that moods and feelings are unreliable and temporary and easily manipulated. Continue reading
People often think of success as a singular moment. It’s not.
Think of it this way. One day you get sick and tired of always being sick and tired by the way you look. You can’t stand seeing yourself in the mirror, so you decide it’s time to go to the gym.
You work out for a day or two. What happens after that? Do you see any results? Do the people around you?
If nothing changed, are you a failure? What happened?
Do a lot of people give up because after one, two, twenty workouts, there’s still no visible change? There’s no one to acknowledge their work? What if they quit, and then start over, and then quit again, and then start again… and one day, they just keep going?
If they keep working out, going to the gym, day in and day out, and then, one day, they look in the mirror and they go like, “Wow.” And all their friends and family congratulate them on what they achieved.
Is that the moment when they became successful? Or did everything before that moment lead to the moment when everyone else acknowledged their success? Continue reading
In boxing, it’s always the punch you don’t see coming that knocks you down. The punch you weren’t expecting, the punch you never thought would hit you. Life is just like that.
It’s the bizarre coincidences we never even dared take into consideration, with an even stranger ramification of consequences. And in the ensuing chaos, we no longer understand what’s going on, and we feel like drowning. Time becomes inconsistent: a second, a minute, an hour, a day… we can no longer tell what is what. Continue reading
Back during the Dark Ages one was required to take into consideration what others thought of them. Individuality, personal space, all of them did not matter that much. You were required to defend your honor. What others said about you, you either had to accept as truth, or fight to prove it as a lie.
Quite different from the way we see ourselves today, right?
Kids have their own rooms, their own private spaces. They are told to love themselves, to not care what others think of them.
Someone else’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.
Something like that.
But what if they’re right?
What if it’s best to live in a social environment and try to understand why others might not like you? Why others might say bad things about you… Continue reading
Ever felt so out of balance that it seemed as if the entire universe was conspiring against you? Probably.
The idea is that you should try to live. No matter what. But how do we do that? Especially when one loses hope and faith and courage. When all one does is exist.
The important thing to remember is that we are here to fight the odds and beat them. Life’s a struggle because that’s the only way to learn, to grow, to evolve. Continue reading
I write a lot about failure, because I consider that a man has to overcome his fear of failure. One must understand its nature and effect, if one wishes to be successful.
Truth be told, it’s not the fall that breaks most people, but their fear of falling. You get used pretty fast to the idea that most things don’t work from the first try.
Also, most people don’t achieve their goals because they don’t set them. Can’t hit a target you do not see… Continue reading
“You say you’re ‘depressed’ – all I see is resilience. You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn’t mean you’re defective – it just means you’re human.” – David Mitchel
Loneliness. It’s painful. It’s a disease. It’s as if there’s a wall between you and everyone else. It’s just you and the silence. Just you and yourself. It forces you to think. To remember. To feel. To remember what you’d never want to feel again.
Depression. Feels like drowning. With the added difference that you see everyone else breathing. It’s standing at edge of an abyss, staring down at the void, contemplating the idea of oblivion.
We often feel broken beyond repair. Hopeless. We see ourselves as unworthy of redemption.
I want to tell you that we are here to feel.
That is all.
Everything that makes you feel alive is worth experiencing at least once. Sometimes even twice.
It’s all so we develop a certain perspective. It’s so that we grow and become what we’re supposed to become.
So feel. Just feel. Just let it be. Just accept what is.
Let go. Continue reading