How to Overcome Failure

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
Randy Pausch

Most of my time is spent trying to figure out ways to overcome failure. To me, failure is the default. Whenever I become complacent, whenever I take things for granted, whenever I become bored or lazy, there’s some failure to wake me up a bit.

Failure is the default.

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You Should Know Defeat, But Never Be Defeated

“People should know when they are conquered.

Would you, Quintus? Would I?” – Gladiator

There are many things you can do to another person. You can defeat them, time and time again, you can conquer them, control them, inflict pain upon them. But you can never destroy them. Not entirely. They tend to hold on to that last remaining piece of their humanity, not matter how broken their hearts are, and they don’t want to let go.

People don’t know when they’re being conquered. They just can’t accept a definitive defeat.

And, yet, in a world where so few have what it takes to be brave, in a world where few are capable of recognizing courage, there are a lot of people who’d like to avoid fighting any battles at all. They stare at the mountain and they say to themselves that there’s no point in trying to climb to the top. They avoid conflict at any cost. Continue reading

What Keeps You Going When You Want to Quit?

It happens to me several times a day. I want to quit. Just today, I wanted to quit finishing this blog post I was writing for The Art of Blogging.

Wanted to half-ass some of the exercises I had to do at the gym.

There is always something that demands me to be weak. This is just the nature of life. The temptation to quit is a recurring theme.

But, you see, the voices that tell you to take it easy on yourself are not aware of the fact that the dream is free. The hustle, on the other hand, is sold separately. Everything you truly want requires work. Hard work. An incredible amount of hard work.

What keeps me going is answering this question, “Why am I doing this?” Continue reading

Six Small Things That Have a Tremendous Positive Impact on Your Health

One of my favorite sayings goes like this, “little by little, a little becomes a lot.”

The truth is that we often think of change as this huge project, when in fact it’s always the small stuff that shapes our lives, the daily decisions that become daily habits that soon become our destiny.

Here are six small changes you can implement in your life, changes that will have a bigger impact on your overall health and well-being than you might expect.

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Don’t Ever, Ever Ring The Bell

“Finally, in SEAL training there is a bell. A brass bell that hangs in the center of the compound for all the students to see. All you have to do to quit is ring the bell.

Ring the bell and you no longer have to wake up at 5 o’clock. Ring the bell and you no longer have to do the freezing cold swims. Ring the bell and you no longer have to do the runs, the obstacle course, the PT — and you no longer have to endure the hardships of training. Just ring the bell.

If you want to change the world don’t ever, ever ring the bell.” – Adm. McRaven

If I were to ask of you to knock at a wall until it turns into a door, what would you do? What would you say to me? What would you think of the situation itself?

Pretty ridiculous, right?

No person in their right mind would ever attempt such a thing. Yet life often provides us with such walls. Granted, we tend to build them ourselves. But sometimes they’re built by those around us. We are constantly being told how the world works, what is our place in it, and what rules must be obeyed.

We are told what can be done, what can’t, what shouldn’t even be attempted.

So, yes, a lot of times in life you get to be in front of a wall, and all that you want is on the other side. And you cannot climb over it, walk around it…

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Heart and Soul

The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough. Nothing else really counts at all. – Ted Hughes

You’re going to die. No, this is not some metaphorical bullshit. You are going to die. They are going to plant you in the ground, and all that you are will decay until there’s nothing left. Your bones will turn to dust and that dust will get carried on through the ages.

Your time on this earth is limited. How do you want to spend it? Think about it. I mean, really think about it.

Lukewarm is no good. Being fearful is not worth it. Worrying about what other people think or say or do. Talking to yourself in a negative tone, telling yourself bullshit stories of why you can’t do it, complaining that life is hard. No shit, life’s hard. It’s meant to be like that. Continue reading

What We Think About…

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“A man is what he thinks about all day long.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Change your thoughts and you can change your world. A terrible cliche, isn’t?

And yet almost every self-made man will tell you just how important thoughts are. Alongside a lot of self-proclaimed gurus. Continue reading