“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” — Steven Furtick
One of the sad truths of today is that technology consumes us. It’s not just about the time, but how we use that time.
Social media, for instance, provides us with both an escape and a way of searching for a certain kind of validation from others.
We want the approval and admiration of others and we edit our lives to appear better than they really are.
“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” – John Steinbeck
They say change is the only true constant in our lives. Defined as the process through which something becomes different. Some of us fight it, others choose to focus their energy on adapting to the new circumstances; to make the most out of whatever it is that has changed.
Change is inevitable.
There’s good and bad in our lives. There’s good and bad in the world around us. How we react to all that is entirely up to us.
But what I really what to write about is the so called “blessing in disguise.”
David Goggins. Possibly the toughest man alive. The only person to complete SEAL training, US Army Ranger School, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller training. He also holds the current record for most pull-ups done in 24 hours.
He once famously ran 100 miles in 24 hours, and he did it by sheer power of will. The metatarsal bones in his feet were broken. There were stress fractures, shin splints, and muscles tearing. He was peeing blood down his leg because he couldn’t make it to a toilet 20 feet from him.
He was on the brink of death, but he kept going nonetheless.
Contrary to popular belief, it is not our bodies that break under high stress, but rather our minds. It is all a mental game.
Yes, pain is inevitable. The avoidance of pain, the desire for comfort, the clinging to one’s comfort zone, all of those cause us pain.
But suffering is optional…
Want to know why?
Read on. Continue reading
“Don’t ask for guarantees. And don’t look to be saved in any one thing, person, machine, or library. Do your own bit of saving, and if you drown, at least die knowing you were heading for shore.” – Ray Bradbury
Even though it doesn’t feel like it, we spend most of our lives waiting. We find ourselves at one end of a dark tunnel and we wait for someone or something to take by the hand and lead us toward the light on the other side.
We spend our days wishing for better ones. Continue reading
“I’m not saying that everything is survivable. Just that everything except the last thing is.” ― John Green
Most of us don’t realize how strong we are. It seems as if we start off as being invincible. Or at least feeling as if we are. And life starts to happen, and we fail, time and time again, and suddenly we grow afraid of failure, oftentimes afraid of success just as much.
The trick is not to hide your pain behind a smile. Continue reading
The truth is that at some deep unconscious level we’re all broken. The sad truth of this world is that we’ve all been broken, lied to, cheated, or left behind. We’ve all lost something and we all miss people we’ve never even met. We all attach a certain melancholic beauty to memories that never even happened.
There’s good and bad in every person you meet. There’s beauty in searching for the good parts, there’s something noble about pretending that their light is all you see. Continue reading
One of my favorite opening lines goes like this, “Everything I write was once real life.”
It’s from Max Blecher’s last novel, The Shinning Burrow.
How do you turn real life into art? Into stories? How do you write about all the things you’d never have the courage to say out loud?