My conscience warned me not to surrender to negative self-image perceptions; I needed to embrace my love handles, welcome wrinkles, sprouts of random white hair and accept that I won’t fit into my favourite jeans.
My belly bump was self-earned from the countless joys of gobbling addictive chewy candies, the satisfaction of gorging on anything deep-fried and the comforts of raiding my hidden junk food cupboard.
Now, it’s time to dress and act my age; toss out those high heels in exchange for Velcro, learn to knit – not hip hop, golf instead of backpack and settle into middle age — and the fatigue and reduced energy that comes rolling with it.
This is what I told myself when I stared at my reflection a few months before my 49th birthday last year.
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Nine years ago, just as my father declared bankruptcy, I went through a sort of mid-mid-life crisis; the kind of often have to fight against when you’re twenty-something and lost.
Nothing made sense. I struggled with depression and feelings of insecurity. I was a bunch of good intentions held back by a set of limiting self-beliefs, anxieties, addictions, all stitched together with a lot of hope.
I was so desperate for a way out of hell that I couldn’t see the fact that hell was something I had built for myself, hell was something I was carrying with me wherever I went.
During these years, as I slowly descended into darkness, I’d often stumble upon quotes that I’d deeply resonate with. They’d offer a bit of comfort, a bit of clarity, and I’d ponder and ponder about them.
The ones I never forgot about are the ones that defined my mindset and allowed me to escape the hell of my existence.
Here are five quotes that defined my mindset and allowed me to fight for my dreams.
“May you live in interesting times.” — Chinese Curse
As a child, Alexander The Great was forced by one of his tutors to wake up every morning and go for a swim in a nearby river. Imagine someone waking you up before sunrise and forcing you to spend an hour in freezing cold water.
Yet, after being a crybaby about it for a while, Alexander decided to do something truly remarkable. No, he did not assassinate his tutor. He simply decided to wake up on his own terms, long before his teacher would walk in on him, and go take that long swim in the river by himself.
This simple change in attitude made all the difference. He had decided to play the cards that fate had dealt him as if they were the cards he had always wanted.
It was his choice to wake up before everyone else and go for a swim in the river.
We’re halfway through 2020, but what a year this has been so far, right?
We struggled with a pandemic, the subsequent lock-down, its economic repercussions, maybe aliens, and now civil rights movements.
It seems there’s nothing we can do but choose to wait for the storm to pass.
Well… what if I were to tell you there’s a way to become the storm?
Yes… I think I’ll do just that. I’ll share with you the mindset I developed during these harsh times.
I don’t know you, but I know this about you: like all of us, you have one goal you’re struggling to achieve. Maybe it’s a business venture, maybe it’s turning a passion into a source of income, maybe it’s your desire to get in better shape.
What usually happens is this: you begin to feel tired. Maybe exhausted is the better word to describe what you’re feeling.
What if the problem isn’t how much you’re trying to get done, but rather your mindset?
And this is how the 40% rule can help you achieve all your goals.
If only a dollar would have magically been transferred to my bank account every time I was my own worst critic…
The thing is, life could be so much better for many of us, if only we’d get rid of certain limiting beliefs, negative thinking habits, and an obsession for listening to the advice of a risk-averse and scared brain.
Negative thinking patterns have a way of monopolizing our words and actions. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these defective habits and replace them with empowering affirmations.
If a thought does not serve you, it has to be replaced.
Let’s take a look at the 7 most destructive mindsets that affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us.
Often times, we are presented with a crossroads. The recurring question, often being, “which road should I take?” Dependent upon the road taken, the outcome is usually a realisation of character growth, or perhaps an area of focus and careful consideration.
If you can relate to this, then this book is definitely for you. The Soliloquies of Many: The Purpose of the Journey is a captivating exploration of life’s various stages, being interpreted through a poetic voice.
“Heard joke once: Man goes to doctor. Says he’s depressed. Says life seems harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in a threatening world where what lies ahead is vague and uncertain. Doctor says, “Treatment is simple. Great clown Pagliacci is in town tonight. Go and see him. That should pick you up.” Man bursts into tears. Says, “But doctor…I am Pagliacci.”
You know the saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover?”
Well, it’s true.
Oftentimes there’s a big difference between what we’re able to decipher about a person, what we see at the surface, and what lies underneath it all. There’s a big difference between appearance and essence.
I’m going to do the obvious here and use myself as an example.
There was a time when I was depressed. I had no money, no job… I felt lonely most times, in that bizarre way when you’re waiting for someone to enter your life and cure you of your loneliness. In a way, I’d spend my nights either writing or missing someone I had never even met.
Even the most driven of us — you, me, or even Tony Robbins — can feel unmotivated at times. In fact, sometimes it feels as if there’s nothing we could do.
Yes, I know. You don’t feel like doing anything. I’ve been there, and in fact I still feel that way every now and then. You’re not alone. But I’ve learned a few ways to get motivated when I know I have to get stuff done.