A new day, a new beginning…

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A new day, a new beginning. It sounds cliche? Perhaps.

We are the sum total of our experiences. We are our past. We spend and awful amount of time worrying, analyzing, deconstructing the past.

But we should never do so at the expense of the present moment. Continue reading

Strong

strength“Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” – William Ellery Channing

They say that you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you have. Some people like to put a lot of emphasis on being strong. They like to be perceived as strong, they like their strength to be acknowledged by others, never realizing that they’re just pretending to be strong, pretending to be tough.

There is a big difference between being strong and being tough. Between having the courage to pursue one’s dreams and isolating oneself emotionally from the rest of the world. Being strong is not about building walls, it’s about building bridges. It’s about taking that small island that is one self and connecting it with others. It’s about having a purpose, about having principles and abiding them no matter what. Continue reading

Defeat.

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“People should know when they are conquered.

Would you, Quintus? Would I?” – Gladiator

There are many things you can do to another person. You can defeat them, time and time again, you can conquer, control, inflict pain upon. But you can never destroy them. Not entirely. They tend to hold on to that last remaining piece of their humanity, not matter how broken their hearts are, and they don’t want to let go.

People really don’t know when they’re being conquered. They just can’t accept a definitive defeat.

And, yet, in a world where so few have what it takes to be brave, in a world where few are capable of recognizing courage, there are a lot of people who’d like to avoid fighting any battles at all. They stare at the mountain and they say to themselves that there’s no point in trying to climb to the top. They avoid conflict at any cost. Continue reading

Connecting the dots

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. 

So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. 

You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. 

Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path.” — Steve Jobs

Thirteen years ago someone read one of my stories.

They didn’t like it. They told me to give up and do something else.

And this made me angry.

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The pursuit of happiness


There are two ways to be happy: change the situation, or change your mindset towards it.

Today’s society is obsessed with happiness. We want instant gratification, success, fame, soulmates that never die…

We grow complacent with people and ideas. We grow cold and bitter because we want what we want and we want it now, and sadly the Universe doesn’t work like this.

We don’t fight for what we want. We don’t have the patience to wait for the good things in life. And we certainly don’t want to put in the effort required to cultivate the necessary perspective for happiness.

Yes, that’s right. Happiness is simply a way of looking at things. A matter of perspective. It’s not a destination, but a way of travel.

It’s deciding to be who you want to be inspite of everyone else telling you to be something else. It’s liking who you are, being proud of who you’ve become.

It’s embracing all that you are (and are not).

It’s not about what you get in life, but about what you become by getting what you want.

It’s not about possession, but about acceptance and gratitude.

“If the world was free of problems, paradise would lose its value.”Mufti Menk

Biggest problem people have? Their belief that they shouldn’t have problems. That they are entitled to eternal happiness. Well, that’s not how this thing works.

Happiness is never a right. It is earned and fought for through blood and tears, and even then we all can slip and fall right back to where we started. There is no such thing as eternal happiness.

There is no such thing as the pursuit of happiness…

Happiness is simply the by-product of a life lived well. Happiness is progress. Happiness is choosing optimism and hope, day after day after day; it’s choosing to be aware of oneself and those around him.

We’re all human. We’re all flawed. But we do have it in ourselves to cultivate the proper habits to be happy.

Superheroes

DeathofsupermanI “created” my first superhero when I was five years old. His name was Captain Hank, and he possessed super-human strength, speed, and he couldn’t age. That was all, basically.

Then, of course, I had to make some villains, and then some other superheroes to aid Hank in his fight against evil.

To some, the concept of  superheroes acts simply as a metaphor for greatness. It can be easily understood by almost anyone, regardless of age, education, culture, and so on. I never actually agreed with this definition.

I believe the concept itself is so primordial that most of us actually miss the point entirely. My definition is that superheroes are characters who possess certain abilities and traits that make them better than normal people in many ways.

But they also have flaws and weaknesses, and they make mistakes. Continue reading

Unfair

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Sometimes we feel (and often say) that life’s not fair, or that some things happen for a reason or for no reason at all. You know, that kind of determinism that’s tied to someone upstairs or others around us. Or someone half a world away. Bad karma, good karma. That sort of stuff Continue reading