Is It That Bad to Fail?

“It is sometimes a mistake to climb; it is always a mistake never even to make the attempt. If you do not climb, you will not fall. This is true. But is it that bad to fail, that hard to fall?”Neil Gaiman

I think failure is not the opposite of success. No. Failure is a stepping stone to success. An integral part of success. We learn so much from failure, and not nearly enough from success.

And, yet, most people are afraid of failure. Are you one of them? Why?

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You fall. You get up. You try again.

I write a lot about failure, because I consider that a man has to overcome his fear of failure. One must understand its nature and effect, if one wishes to be successful.

Truth be told, it’s not the fall that breaks most people, but their fear of falling. You get used pretty fast to the idea that most things don’t work from the first try.

Also, most people don’t achieve their goals because they don’t set them. Can’t hit a target you do not see… Continue reading

Never Stop Evolving

Almost four years ago I lost something important to me. I lost the pleasure to write. Struggling with depression, not wanting to admit this struggle, not willing to say it out loud that something had to change, I did my best to be self-destructive while hoping someone would save me from myself.

Truth be told, I’m not good at lying to myself enough to pretend that okay is good enough. That average is fine for me. That routine is something I enjoy.

I spent most of my childhood dreaming of the moment I’d grow up and assume the role and put a dent in the universe, and here I was, twenty something, lost, lazy, confused, and somehow feeling sorry for myself day in and day out.

I had lost myself, had lost the drive that got me this wonderful blog and a fantastic audience. Lost my hunger, my ambition, my desire to be the best possible version of myself.

I thought this was it. This was what I was going to be, this was all that I could be. Somehow, less than average. Some sort of… dreamer without the energy to do anything other than dream.

Everything felt too hard: working out, doing the work, aspiring for more, learning new things.

Twenty something years old and I felt as if I was too old to learn new stuff.

I was lazy. That was what I was. I wanted for things to fall on my lap or else pretended that I didn’t want them at all.

I dreamed of a future where I could be all that I had dreamt of being, but wouldn’t move a finger to make those dreams a reality.

If you’re like this, if there’s this stupid voice telling you that you can’t do something, please don’t listen to it.

If there’s a voice telling you that it’s okay to want things and accept you’ll never have them, do silence this voice.

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THIS Is The Secret to Success

Rejoice.

I am going to share with you a secret trick to creating a successful business, being happy, having friends, influencing people, and pretty much getting everything you want from life.

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Impossible or I’m possible?

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.” – Anthony Robbins

The realists will say this is a lie, but we are what we think we are. What we consider to be out of our reach starts as a simple thought. We are the ones who create invisible boundaries.

In other words, we convince ourselves that we are this and this and that, and that’s it. That’s all that we’ll ever be.

“I’m a writer.”

“I’m a singer.”

“I’m an accountant.”

You tell people you feel lonely, you tell people you don’t like going out, you tell people you’re a pessimist. You think and you think and you define yourself and you’re only going to act according to your definition. Continue reading

Do You Know Who You Are?

“We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do.” – Martha Grimes

Who are you? What defines you as a person? What qualities do you possess? But what about flaws? What do you want most in life? What are you afraid of the most?

If only it were so simple to answer those questions. A person is the sum total of all his experiences until the present moment. Experiences and reactions to those experiences. Not only the story, but the change that accompanied said story.

What I’m really trying to say is that we change. We become more and more what the world wants us to be, or we become more and more who we want to be. Either way, we change.

But I strenuously believe that we must set our own course, that we must aspire to be the kind of person we’d love to meet, even though it’s no easy task.

When Okay Is Not Enough

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“If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: We all want everything to be okay. We don’t even wish so much for fantastic or marvelous or outstanding. We will happily settle for okay, because most of the time, okay is enough.”David Levithan

Let me tell you something about myself: I’ve never really settled for okay. Yes, okay is good. For a while. But there’s always something to ruin it… there’s always something waiting to ruin our lives… Continue reading