The little things

thingsWe’ve been told (and we keep on telling ourselves on a regular basis) that life finds a way, that somehow things turn out for the better. That if you want it, you can have it.

Sadly, that’s not true.

Do you know what keeps me up some nights? It’s the fear that somehow I won’t be able to write anymore, that somehow life’s going to take that away from me. And that I won’t be able to find a way, that life just won’t want to present me with a solution. Continue reading

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It’s all about progress (continued)

We must view with profound respect the infinite capacity of the human mind to resist the inroads of useful knowledge. – Thomas B. Lounsbury

I spent eight years of my life writing and reading without:

  • Earning money
  • Other people reading it (besides the ocassional muse)

But I kept at it.

First month I started this blog: 500 views.

First month of self-publishing: 1 e-book sold and one paperback. I quit for a while, tried again after I started this blog: first month of self-publishing(second time) I sold 3 e-copies of a short story and earned $1.05 before taxes.

Any sane person would have quit.

I didn’t.

A few months after that, I finally began selling books, earning from advertising.

I thought this was it. The hard work paid off.

I met this girl, we fell in love.

It was paradise.

I was who I was and I didn’t have to do anything else.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work this way.

Life’s perfect? You have to fight to keep it that way.

In life, stagnation is synonimous with atrophy.

Writing felt like work.

I just didn’t feel like it. Gave up on the habits that helped me all those years.

Whenever you feel absolutely certain about something, life’s gonna hit you in the head with a brick. That’s a universal rule.

If you stop growing, if you stop expanding your consciousness, if you stop setting goals… That’s the beginning of the end.

Be proud, but never satisfied.

I had given up on reading. Not enough time I told myself…

Big mistake, big, big mistake.

When certain problems arised, I couldn’t adapt. I just froze. Felt like lying on the floor. I became a crybaby.

It all felt useless.

I had lost everything. Health problems, money problems, the girl I loved left me…

Why did this had to happen to me?

And you know what? The answer is, why not?

Life happens to all of us. Whether we like it or not.

If we don’t fight for what we want, even after we’ve gained it, life’s going to take it from us.

It’s that simple.

The only way to get more than what you have is to become more. To learn, to grow, to develop certain skills.

Every day, we have two choices: assume responsibility for our lives, for our destiny, and suffer the pain of discipline, or blame everyone else for our lives, feel miserable about ourselves and die a slow and undignifying death…

Never stop learning.

Progress is essential.

It’s what we’re here for.

And there are always areas of our lives we could better develop.

I learned this lesson the hard way…not going to make this mistake ever again.

Time management

To be honest, I’m not a very good time manager. And that’s not because I’m trying to do more than one thing at once, or because I’m lazy (well… maybe I am a bit lazy), but simply because I get tied up with a single action for too long. Continue reading

Obstacles

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where they are had to begin where they were.” — Richard L. Evans
There comes a time when a certain number of obstacles get in the way of you getting what you want.

Setbacks.

Failures.

Dissapointments.

What you thought would happen, didn’t. Your expectations turned out to be misguided.

What do you do then?

Well, the answer is simple. Rest, if you have to. Don’t quit, but take a short break to think things through. What happened, who did what, and what has to be done to improve the situation.

Don’t spend too much though. You’ve got to keep moving forward, no matter what.

Most people give up when they encounter resistance because they secretly wish it were easy.

Hate to break it down to you, but it never goes as smoothly as you think it will.

Most times it’s an uphill battle. And it keeps being so, even as you get better and wiser.

But you’ve got to keep going. Think of the view from the top, think of why you chose this path.

Your why has to be strong enough to beat the crap out of any setback, drawback, dissapointment, or excuse.

Afraid you’ll fail?

Be more afraid you won’t succeed.

Do what has to be done, do what others don’t want to do, so you can get what others can only wish for.

Fight, dammit. Fight.

This is what really makes the difference. How much effort people put into whatever it is you’re doing. That’s it.

The Inner Game

​”It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is a change in the inner game.” – Tony Robbins
There are so many external factors that influence our lives that it’s easy to waste our efforts trying to change them according to our desires.

Mastering others is, indeed, power, but having control over oneself, one’s emotions and feelings, that is where true strength resides.

Because it doesn’t matter what happens in your life, you are the one who decides how to react.

To paraphrase Viktor Frankl, this is the one freedom that no one can take from you.

All else is temporary. Fragile, uncertain.

Your thoughts, your inner world, the happiness that you create(or not) for yourself, these are the only things you’ll ever have control over. As long as you make it a personal goal.

Let me give you an example: happiness.

And you all know the terrible cliche that happiness comes from within. It sounds too good to be true. It seems almost impossible.

Two people who have exact same circumstances in life. They earn the same amount of money, live in the same neighborhood, have the same kind of relationships with others. One is happy, the other is not.

It’s all about their own perspectives.

The inner game, how well they control it.

If you are  dependant on external factors, you’ll never be content. It’s a fact.

If you constantly compare yourself to others, there will always be someone who has more. Someone who’s better.

In the end, the insecurities you can’t change will end up destroying you.

You know, the ones you don’t like to admit.

Funny thing: what is the best answer when someone asks you if you have insecurities?

Who doesn’t?

First of all, I’d like to thank Philip and Melodie for their donations.

Secondly, I want you to take a look at this:

I still believe in my dream. I want to make YouTube videos again.

There’s still a long way to go.

And I can’t do it without your help.

If you wish to support me, if you believe in this dream of mine, you can pledge one dollar (yup, you read that right) here. Of course, you can pledge more by “purchasing” more than one option.

If you wish to help me directly, you can contribute any amount you see fit via PayPal to contact [at] cristianmihai [dot] net.

Also, you can purchase reblogs here.

Let’s do this. I believe we can raise the money and get back to working on videos again(among other things)

Once again, thank you for your support,

Cristian

The one dollar pledge

Hi guys,

As you probably know by now, the situation is kind of hard. I’ve been struggling the past month to raise much needed funds to go forward with my projects, but more so, to keep up with bills of all sorts.

I need your help if I am to make YouTube videos again. I need your help if I am to edit and publish new works that are badly in need of editing.

The software I need to create my covers, the interior design for paperbacks, all that costs $$.

If you wish to help me out, you can pledge one dollar (yup, you read that right) here.

A dollar. That’s right. One buck. To show your appreciation with $1 may not seem like a lot, but it does mean a lot to me. Not everyone understands the hours of dedication I put into creating what is, basically, free, and most people see it as just that. “Free”. By contributing anything at all, you’re showing me what a KICK ASS & SUPPORTIVE person you are! You didn’t have to, but you did, and that means everything to me.

P.S. Of course, you can “purchase” more than one if you want to.

If you wish to help me directly, you can contribute any amount you see fit via PayPal to contact [at] cristianmihai [dot] net.

I need your help. I can’t do this without you.

Also, you can purchase advertising options here.

Once again, thank you for being here with me on this journey,

Cristian