“It wasn’t only wickedness and scheming that made people unhappy, it was confusion and misunderstanding; above all, it was the failure to grasp the simple truth that other people are as real as you.” – Ian McEwan
They say the biggest distance between two people is misunderstanding. It creates this gap between people. Or is it a wall? And it’s frustrating, isn’t it? It does make you feel as if you’re alone, the only one who thinks and says and acts in a certain way.
And by feeling so don’t we diminish others as well? Don’t we fail to understand that even though they are different, they’re still inherently the same as us? And they deserve to be treated the same way we’d like to be treated.
I don’t know, it’s a difficult question to answer.
But could you hate someone if you knew why they do what they do? If you could truly understand them? Their thoughts? Their feelings? Know their past? Their struggles? What they want? What they have lost?
Here in Romania we have a pretty strange educational system. And, well, the whole system does nothing to tell you that you are special, that you are capable of greatness. I don’t know if this is a bad thing or not, but I’ve always wanted to believe that people have greatness inside of them, that people are capable of being great, of doing wonderful things.
But they’re constantly being told that they’re just average, that they have to play a small part, that changing the world is a task reserved to other individuals.
It’s always others who get to do all the things we want to do, isn’t it? Continue reading
It seems to me that the last couple of years have been all about the grind.
Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson famously works out twice before we even wake up. Elon Musk sleeps on a couch in his office. Everyone is either working hard or telling everyone else to work hard.
But what about working smart? What about becoming more efficient? Getting more done in less time. Isn’t that something worth looking into?
Well, lucky you, here are twenty ideas to help you work smarter, not just harder. Continue reading
“You cannot save people. You can only love them.” ― Anaïs Nin
It was not until a few days ago that I realized how much truth hid beneath these two simple statements. I also understood that I’ve been trying to save the people I love for as long as I can remember. Continue reading
How often do you tell people to go fuck themselves?
If me using the word “fuck” makes you feel uncomfortable, ask yourself why.
Why do you do what you do? Why do you earn the money that you earn? Why are you happy? Or not? Why do you have the addictions that you have and others don’t? Or you don’t and others do.
It’s been years since I’ve wanted for people to define their hopes and dreams and wants and needs on their own terms, to figure out their why, to figure out what makes them feel alive and do that over and over again until they can’t keep their eyes open. And then, the next day, do that again.
I don’t care about the excuses and lies you keep telling yourself about why you don’t have what you want. I really don’t.
I need you to care enough about your dream that you are willing to tell people to fuck off and let you do what you want to do.
Because, guess what? When it’s time for you to die, you’re the one who’s going to be planted in the ground, not them. So you might as well live life on your terms. Continue reading
This video presents a number of interesting concepts about virtual interaction, social networks, and loneliness, but what I found really interesting was the idea that in a virtual environment we get to edit who we are.
In a way, I agree. In a social media world such as ours, we can delete and change who we want the world to believe we are. Information is a couple of seconds from our reach, so we can appear to be smarter, but given enough time I believe you can’t appear to be someone you’re not. Continue reading
This is something that we all struggle with at various moments in our lives.
Because being in motion and taking action are similar, but not the same. They both give you something to do, but… Continue reading